Adoption Blog - Adoptimist
January 24, 2017

Repairing A Damaged Relationship With Your Child’s Birthmother

Adoption can be a beautiful thing, but it can also be messy at times. There is a lot of heartache and loss that surrounds adoption. Many adoptive parents go through feelings of loss before turning towards adoption to build their family or while in the adoption process. And for birthmoms, adoption begins with the loss of the child. And even in an open adoption, where a birthmom still has some type of ongoing relationship with her child, there remains the loss of her every day motherhood.  While open adoption relationships can be healthy and positive,... Read more…

January 19, 2017

Our First Year Home After Our Adoption

You never know what the New Year will bring. For us, it was the start of our new life together as a family. It was a cold day in January, and the trees in our yard were gently covered with a fresh blanket of snow. But unlike the typical winter days of the past, this one was special. This was the day of our daughter’s birth. It was hard to believe we had actually gotten to this point. Not only had an expectant mom chosen us, but now... Read more…

January 18, 2017

Choosing To Room With Your Baby Before Placement

If you are pregnant and making an adoption plan, you are likely thinking about your upcoming labor, delivery, and hospital stay. One of the things to give some thought and consideration to (that is a big deal for most placing Moms) is whether to have your new baby room in with you during the hospital stay. If your baby is born with no complications, is healthy and you also had no complications, are doing well and stable, you typically have the option to have your baby in your hospital... Read more…

January 16, 2017

Bonding With Extended Family In Your Open Adoption

Back in 2010, I visited my son Scotty’s birthmother Kerri at her home. She “picked us” through our agency in January. Scotty was due in May. It was March; she invited me to her house. After six years of infertility treatments and eighteen months as a waiting adoptive mother, I was nervous. I was curious. I was concerned that I was getting too close, too excited, and too agreeable. Anxiety overcame nervousness when I spotted a basinet in Kerri’s mother’s room. Her name is Lynn. She was expecting her first grandchild, whom her daughter planned to... Read more…

January 11, 2017

17 Things To Do If You Hope To Adopt In 2017

Choosing adoption can be overwhelming and confusing, rendering many hopeful parents to be paralyzed with fear and indecisiveness. If you are considering adopting in 2017, here are 17 things you need to be doing right now: 1:  Consider Why You Want To Adopt Adopting is a big decision and requires a long-term commitment to not only the process, but of course, to the child you bring into your home. 2:  Research Adoption Professionals Not all adoption professionals are equal. It’s essential that you work with ethical adoption professionals to... Read more…

January 10, 2017

What Your Adoption Journey Needs Most This Year

Being on the journey to adopt requires so much of us physically, mentally, and emotionally. The adoption home study alone can feel like it requires more documentation than taking out a mortgage or buying a brand-new car. As I check my email today, I once again see our social worker has contacted me to ask for our updated financial statements, fingerprint clearances, and the check we owe them to renew our home study — for the third year in a row.... Read more…

January 6, 2017

Savoring Holiday Cards And Adoption Journeys

Every January I celebrate the arrival of the New Year by opening my holiday cards. Most cascade in between Thanksgiving and Christmas and go directly into a big envelope where I store them until January 2. Then they are opened in one big blaze of celebration. Although the cards resemble each other in most ways — cute kids and cheerful greetings — the “back stories” vary widely. In opening them together, I get to celebrate all the ways in which people find their way to parenthood. Some seem to walk over hot coals, and others have smooth sailing.... Read more…

January 2, 2017

A Wish For Those Hoping For Adoption In 2017

A new year. A fresh start. A chance to make your life happier and more fulfilling. For many people, the beginning of 2017 brings resolutions to lose weight, land a better job, live a healthier lifestyle, and more. If you’re hoping to adopt, your biggest wish is likely to become a parent to a precious child. I know from experience that the persistent ache in your heart never goes away until your child is finally home with you. The wait is often long, emotional, and unpredictable, but it doesn’t have to be unbearable. The keys: hope and a positive outlook.... Read more…

December 29, 2016

Top 5 Adoption Blogs Of 2016

At Adoptimist, we are not only blessed with a wonderful community of families hoping to adopt, we are blessed with a talented community of writers and professionals who contribute to our Adoption Blog. They share their experiences, offer inspiration, and helpful advice to the adoption community. We’d like to take this opportunity to thank each blog contributor for their amazing work. And as 2016 comes to a close we thought we’d take a look back at some of the blogs our readers enjoyed... Read more…