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October 5, 2016

Dealing With Your Child’s Birthday

A placed child’s birthday is one of the hardest days for birthmothers. For me personally, it is a bittersweet day mixed with joy and sadness. I’m joyous for the life I brought into this world, but I’m sad for the loss of my motherhood to my sweet son. As my son’s birthday gets close, I find myself thinking about and reliving everything that happened leading up to his birth and those three precious days we spent together in... Read more…

September 16, 2016

Birthmother Grief Is Unique

Grief is a natural sense of sadness we experience anytime a major loss occurs in our lives. Birthmother grief is unique. I call it unique because it is unlike most other grief. Typically, when we think of grieving over someone, it is usually someone who has passed on. With birthmother grief, you are grieving the loss of your everyday parenting to a child who is still living, just with different people. After carrying her baby for 9 months, a birthmother... Read more…

September 13, 2016

Adoptive Parent Networking, Marketing, And Outreach: The Internet & Adoption

Adoption Advertising and Marketing For Adoptive Parents The internet has forever changed private adoption in the United States. With so many options available to adoptive parents, families are choosing to market themselves and expand their outreach via social media, custom websites, blogging platforms, and video sites like Youtube. Online advertising and connect sites are also growing in popularity each year. But having more options... Read more…

August 16, 2016

Unplanned Does Not Necessarily Equal Unwanted 


Even nowadays as adoption is becoming more accepted and talked about, there is still a stigma that children who are placed for adoption are unwanted. This is untrue and just another adoption myth and stereotype regarding birth mothers, their feelings about their children, and why they chose adoption. Just because a woman is considering adoption or a birth... Read more…

August 3, 2016

The First Post-Placement Visit

I was going through some old photos recently and came across a snapshot of my very first post-placement visit with my son. I sat for a few minutes staring at that photo, automatically transported back in time nearly fifteen years ago. I was just 25 years old holding my two-week old son, sitting on his adoptive parents’ couch.  I remember the anxiety ridden days leading up to that first visit like it was yesterday. I had all kinds of crazy... Read more…

July 29, 2016

Changing Your Mind About Adoption

As I was finishing up my recent post about making a hospital plan, I began to think about something that isn’t talked about often − the possibility the expectant mother will change her mind and choose to parent. This possibility is sometimes tiptoed around because people are afraid if they mention it, it will happen. As someone who has made an adoption plan, I can assure you hearing it mentioned won’t put the idea there. It... Read more…

July 21, 2016

Educating Yourself on Adoption Scams:  Q & A with an Adoption Attorney

Adoption scams can be a devastating experience for hopeful adoptive parents. Fortunately, by educating yourself on adoption scams, you can help to minimize them. Today, we talk to attorney Anthony Zurica of Zurica Law. A practicing lawyer since 2006, Zurica has been handling adoptions in New York for the past three years. Find out what he has to say about adoption scams and what... Read more…

July 6, 2016

Adoption Scams: What Is an Emotional Scammer?

When you think of an adoption scam, being swindled out of money or goods often comes to mind. However, there is another form of scamming that is just as deceptive but far less tangible. It’s called emotional or psychological scamming. And, it’s unfortunately fairly common during the adoption process. Emotional scammers target their victims with one goal in mind: getting attention. They don’t want your money or gifts. Some enjoy... Read more…

July 1, 2016

Supporting Your Child’s Birthmother

In open adoptions where there is ongoing contact between adoptive parents and birthmothers, it’s important to support and remember your child’s birthmother. There are ways that you as an adoptive parent can be thoughtful throughout the years that will make your child’s birth mom feel loved and involved. • Honor your commitments. If you promised to send pictures once a month, email once a week, visit every three months, etc., through a Read more…

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