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February 14, 2017

Ten Adoption Themed Children’s Picture Books, Just in Time for Valentine’s Day

As a mom-by-adoption to four children, we have tons of adoption picture books in our home. They open the door to conversation, encouraging our children to ask questions, and help them to navigate through their feelings.  Valentine’s Day presents the perfect opportunity to add to your child’s library. Here are ten wonderful picture books featuring adoption and love themes:  1:  Read more…

February 14, 2017

A Valentine For My Future Child

My heart longs for you to be in my arms. Since I cannot hug you today, or physically hand you this big tacky heart or teddy bear I am envisioning, I can give you a different kind of Valentine. This Valentine is a bouquet of hopes, dreams and good wishes instead of roses, daisies and tulips. In this bouquet I have put: ♥ A prayer for your biological mother and father -that the Lord gives them both extra strength and courage to choose life for you. I pray your mother has an easy pregnancy and that she dreams of your future with hope. ♥ A promise... Read more…

February 13, 2017

Adoption Is About Love

Flowers, candy, cards, and other heartfelt expressions are just a few of the many ways couples across the U.S. are celebrating Valentine’s Day this month. Love is no doubt one of the most powerful emotions we experience. That’s why it’s no surprise that love is strongly and abundantly present in adoption. The reason: the bond between a parent and a child, whether biological or not, is a connection like no other. Let’s take a look at all the ways that love comes into play throughout the adoption process. Unselfish When an expectant mother learns... Read more…

February 9, 2017

An Open Letter To Hopeful Adoptive Parents

Dear Hopeful Adoptive Parent, Perhaps you have no children yet running the halls of your home and have turned to adoption to start your family. Or maybe you have adopted a couple of times already or have a few biological kids and are hoping to add a sibling to the mix by adopting. Whatever your back story is, you are likely reading this because you are hoping to adopt and in the process of adopting now. I won’t pretend to know the emotions you are feeling or exactly what the experience and process has been like up to this point for you. I’ve never... Read more…

February 7, 2017

Eight Ways to Love Your Child’s Birth Parents

I’m a mom of four children, each with an open adoption with their birth family. Open adoption is intricate, and sometimes families get so lost in details that they forget about the joys that come with the gift of openness. With some planning and thoughtfulness, you can extend love to your children’s birth families. Here are some suggestions:  1:  Keep Your Promises This is essential! When you keep your promises, such as... Read more…

February 2, 2017

The WIDE Open Adoption Conversation

A few weeks ago, I took my son Scotty to a friend’s birthday party. An acquaintance remarked at how Scotty has grown, and mentioned that her friend recently adopted through the same agency we used. We naturally compared my child’s adoption with her friend’s child’s adoption. Same agency. Same years of exhausting, hopeless infertility treatments. Same outcome: FINALLY, they brought home an infant. Then my friend said, “Their adoption is completely... Read more…

January 31, 2017

A Prayer For Adoptive Parents

Being a parent is an amazing, challenging, awesome, and exhausting blessing. No matter how moms become moms and dads become dads – parenting is a full-time job with hours that never end. When someone becomes a parent through adoption – all the blessings and challenges of being a parent exist, but there are added dimensions that bring added stress. Knowing the huge responsibility it is to be a parent, I think it is safe to say that... Read more…

January 26, 2017

Adopting a Second Child — Don’t Get Cold Feet

I spoke today, by chance, with two of my former adoption clients. They are very different women in so many ways, and they had very different adoption stories. One woman is married; the other is single. One adopted a boy with about an hour’s notice; the other, a girl with whose birthmother she was matched at five months. One is a stay-at-home mom; the other, a career woman. One is in her early thirties; the other, her late forties. Two very different women, but they expressed two things... Read more…

January 24, 2017

Repairing A Damaged Relationship With Your Child’s Birthmother

Adoption can be a beautiful thing, but it can also be messy at times. There is a lot of heartache and loss that surrounds adoption. Many adoptive parents go through feelings of loss before turning towards adoption to build their family or while in the adoption process. And for birthmoms, adoption begins with the loss of the child. And even in an open adoption, where a birthmom still has some type of ongoing relationship with her child, there remains the loss of her every day motherhood.  While open adoption relationships can be healthy and positive,... Read more…