Adoption Blog - Adoptimist
November 10, 2016

A Prayer For Birth Parents

Birthmothers are not all the same. The motivation to become a birthmother comes from many different sources. Some choose an adoption plan because they are young and have no means to parent, some have no support from the birthfather, others make the decision to choose adoption with the birthfather. Some are battling addiction; others feel a deep call inside that this baby was meant to be with an adoptive family. No matter what the reason, all... Read more…

November 10, 2016

Signing Relinquishment Papers: What Needs to Change

There are many hot topic issues in the adoption community, as well as laws and procedures that some feel need to be changed. Today, I want to focus on a procedure I feel needs to be changed from my perspective as a birthmother and that is signing relinquishment papers.  First, I do want to say the laws surrounding relinquishment vary from state to state. The laws pertaining to your situation may be different. However, I know other... Read more…

November 7, 2016

Celebrating National Adoption Month

As most of you know, November is National Adoption Month. It’s the time each year when adoption organizations across the country celebrate with special events, programs, and activities to help raise awareness of adoption. For me, it has another special meaning: November is the month we were matched with our daughter’s birth mom. After two long years of waiting, we finally learned we were going to be parents! My life began to change on that fateful day —... Read more…

November 2, 2016

November Is National Adoption Month

November is National Adoption Month! And everyone touched by adoption is welcome to join Adoptimist in the celebration. Here’s how: 1) Follow us on Instagram. 2) Share your adoption story on your Instagram page. Tell us how adoption has changed (or will change) your life. So we can find you, be sure to add the hashtag #WeAreAdoptimists All month long we’ll post your inspiring stories to our Instagram page in celebration of National Adoption Month! And don’t forget... Read more…

October 27, 2016

What You Should Know About Meeting Birth Parents

Connections. They are what make life complete, allowing you to relate to another human being. We all have strong connections with our family, friends, or those we have known a long time. But how can we connect with an expectant mother we haven’t even met? How do we form a bond with someone who is faced with one of the biggest decisions of her life: Whether or not to place her baby for adoption? Through my experiences with adoption, I have found there are a few important things you can do when you Read more…

October 24, 2016

Adoption Videos

Why You Need An Adoption Profile Video There are many reasons not to create an adoption video: You don’t like the way you look on camera, your voice sounds funny, you are an extremely private family, and so on. And yet, in spite of all that, there are still several very good reasons why you should consider making one. Here are some of the best reasons you should consider adding an adoption profile video to your outreach:  • People like to watch videos. Videos are quick and easy to watch and (usually) more interesting than reading a lot of text.... Read more…

October 19, 2016

Faith And The Adoption Journey

Faith is a gift. I remember sitting in religion class as a Catholic school student and being taught that statement. I also remember being confused by it. Wasn’t faith a choice? If it is a gift — does that mean not everyone gets it? Shouldn’t God give it to everyone?  Lots of questions ran through my brain as I scratched my head. It didn’t make sense. I didn’t get it. I am sure I thought the teacher was wrong and had no idea what she was talking about. Fast-forward many years later to the present moment: Faith is a gift. I totally get it.... Read more…

October 11, 2016

Calling Someone Else Mom

When I was pregnant and making an adoption plan, I didn’t give much thought to how I would feel hearing my son call someone else Mom. This is not often discussed with adoption professionals prior to placing a child for adoption. Some birthmoms (myself included) are blindsided with emotions when it first happens. Although I didn’t give it a ton of thought, I knew in the back of my mind that as a birthmom participating in an open adoption, one day I would hear... Read more…

October 5, 2016

Dealing With Your Child’s Birthday

A placed child’s birthday is one of the hardest days for birthmothers. For me personally, it is a bittersweet day mixed with joy and sadness. I’m joyous for the life I brought into this world, but I’m sad for the loss of my motherhood to my sweet son. As my son’s birthday gets close, I find myself thinking about and reliving everything that happened leading up to his birth and those three precious days we spent together in... Read more…

September 26, 2016

Five Tips for Women Considering Adoption from an Adoption Attorney

What are some of the most critical issues for women considering adoption? Here are five tips for planning the right adoption for you, which I have learned during 30 years as an adoption attorney. 1. Understand Your Rights and Responsibilities • Choosing a family for your baby is probably the most important decision you will ever make. The starting point is... Read more…