April 10, 2014

Spending Time With Birth Families Over The Holidays

The text came in one evening as I was on my way to a concert: “We found a great deal on Hotwire for a flight. We’ll be able to stay for eight days. Let us know if it will work so we can book it.” Gulp! Eight days! Would we all be talking by the end of it, I wondered? “Go for it!” I texted back, heart in my mouth. We opened my daughter’s closed adoption in 2012 when she was thirteen. A search, with the help of a friend who is a private detective, quickly revealed that her birth mother had relocated to Colorado from Utah, where she lived when she... Read more…

April 4, 2014

Adoptimist Headlines: How To Get Your Audience’s Attention & Keep It

What is an Adoptimist Headline? Your headline is the first sentence and the first words that your visitors will see and read when they look at your profile. Formerly designated as space for your intro letter salutation (e.g., ‘Dear Birthmother’, ‘To Someone Special’), a headline is actually a much more powerful and effective tool for your readers. Think of your headline as an attention grabber, a chance to immediately tell your visitors exactly who you are and what your intentions may be (in 120 characters or less). The headline, in... Read more…

March 20, 2014

Six Ways To Get The Most Out Of Your Free Adoption Profile

Adoptimist is first and foremost a paid membership service. So our Premium and Featured families will always receive the greatest amount of exposure (and success) on the site. But a Starter / Free profile can still be a very effective adoption marketing tool for your family. We’ve put a lot of time and effort into our Starter plan and believe it is the best free online adoption profile available.... Read more…

March 14, 2014

From Closed To Open Adoption: The Moments That Made My Heart Sing

My daughter Elizabeth gave birth to her second son last week. The morning he was born was filled with many delights - seeing him for the first time, learning his name, watching as he was introduced to his three-year-old brother, and of course my daughter’s radiant smile. It was a morning filled with magical moments! But the one that truly made my heart sing came later in the day when I returned to the hospital for a second visit. I walked into my daughter’s room to see Bob, her birthfather, holding his grandson.  I imagine that for many people who... Read more…

March 7, 2014

Staying Positive During the Wait to Adopt

Making the decision to adopt a child may seem like the easy part when compared to the often long, unpredictable wait inherent in adoption. Many questions will likely fill your mind, sometimes casting doubt and bringing you down. However, you can turn these fears and concerns around by practicing a little positive thinking and creative visualization. Here are some common concerns you may have and how to help ease your mind and stay positive. What if we never get picked? I’ll admit, during our wait to adopt I occasionally wondered this myself. In domestic... Read more…

February 16, 2014

Finding the “Promise of Spring” Along Your Adoption Journey

I find that every year about this time I am over winter. I feel cooped up, ready to get out and spread my wings, weighed down by heavy clothes and the comfort foods of winter, tired of dark colors and trees with no leaves. This winter in particular has seemed to go on forever with never-ending snow days. Even with the beauty of the snow, I am ready for the lightness and colors of spring. One of the things I do each February, the second they become available in the local floral department of our grocery store, is to buy a Hyacinth or Paperwhite plant. Though it... Read more…

January 23, 2014

The Positives and Negatives of Open Adoption: Some Thoughts From an Adoptive Mother

In 1990 my husband and I adopted our son. While open adoption was beginning to be practiced as early as the 1980’s, it was not standard practice at that point. It was certainly more common in California than on the East Coast where we live. We were counseled in the usual fashion for the time: You can make arrangements to send pictures or letters from time to time to the birth family, but contact and openness were not encouraged beyond that. Adoptions were still primarily “closed.” In 1999, when we adopted our daughter, the shift to open adoption had... Read more…

January 18, 2014

10 Frequently Asked Questions About Our Open Adoption

In 2002, when our son Houston was nine months old, my husband Jeff and I began trying to conceive a second child. After an arduous journey through failed infertility treatments and the domestic adoption process, we welcomed our son Scotty in May 2010. Jeff and I spent a total of eight years thinking, journaling, daydreaming, and asking questions. Now that our mystery is solved, we find ourselves answering questions. We’re in a unique position; we can compare Jeff’s 1963 closed adoption to... Read more…

December 30, 2013

Make Your Adoption Profile A Life Changer

It seems like the clock starts ticking the moment you decide adoption is your chosen path.  Even as you complete your initial paperwork, days may already begin to feel longer as your wait to grow your family through domestic adoption begins. With adoption, your life and family can change in an instant. My husband and I started receiving calls and connections almost immediately after submitting our adoption profile. This was no accident. I believe a large reason for our success resulted from the simple fact that I was willing to do anything and everything I... Read more…

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