Adoption Blog - Adoptimist
September 8, 2017

Adoption Outreach: What’s Working (& Not Working) For Today’s Adoptive Parents

It’s a great time to be pursuing adoption. There are more ways than ever to get connected with someone and create the family of your dreams. But your time and energy aren’t limitless. And neither are your financial resources. So you’ll want to make smart, careful decisions and consider all your options during every step of your adoption journey. You’ll need to be creative and open-minded at times, stubborn and tenacious at others. Your adoption success will require effort... Read more…

June 7, 2017

Inspirational Quotes For Waiting Adoptive Parents

A few weeks ago, I was wondering if I should talk to my husband about changing gears in our adoption journey. Foster care with the hope of adopting was weighing on my mind a lot. The fact that we had been waiting over three years this time around had me wondering what to do and what was meant to be. I found myself looking up towards heaven for guidance more than usual.  I needed to be inspired. I needed a good reason to continue hoping... Read more…

May 23, 2017

Identifying Adoption Scams

In today’s world of social media, private adoption has become much more dependent on making sure you have an online profile, often with both your adoption professional as well as on a site like Adoptimist. Although adoption scams have existed for decades, prospective adoptive families are expected to “put themselves out there” more than ever. Prospective adoptive parents come into adoption in a very vulnerable state... Read more…

May 17, 2017

The Key To Creating A Great Adoption Profile

Adoption Profile, Adoption Letter, Dear Birthmother Letter, Adoption Brochure . . . these are all terms currently in use within the adoption community for the “letter” or “booklet” that prospective adoptive parent(s) (AP) are required to create. The adoption professional (attorney, agency, facilitator) uses this to present the AP to a potential birthmother, i.e. a pregnant woman who is considering placing her baby for adoption. Although most adoption professionals have or use a website with parent profiles on them, the basis for those online profiles... Read more…

May 11, 2017

On Mother’s Day, Without Being a Mother

Every May, the store shelves are filled with greeting cards, potted flowers, and heart-shaped jewelry. The holiday that so many relish in is also the holiday that many women dread:  Mother’s Day.  Mother’s Day is simply one of the hardest times of year for those who are considering or waiting to adopt. Truly, being reminded that you have a mother’s heart, yet you aren’t yet a mother, can be excruciating. You feel as if you are surrounded by those basking in the glory of motherhood while you are an outsider. You yearn to be part of the... Read more…

May 10, 2017

Moving From Infertility To Adoption

When I was a child, I dreamed of becoming a mother someday. My sister and I would often play with our baby dolls—feeding them, dressing them, and rocking them to sleep. I wondered what my future child would be like. Would she resemble me? Would she enjoy the same activities? Never in my thoughts did I consider my dreams would be shattered or I would suffer heartbreaking pain and loss. Becoming a parent is supposed to be easy, right? Unfortunately, for many,... Read more…

May 1, 2017

Reuniting With A Lost Adopted Brother

Jeanne McWilliams Blasberg is the author of EDEN: A Novel, a story which portrays a woman who introduces the child she gave up for adoption fifty years earlier to her assembled family on the Fourth of July weekend. Below, Jeanne shares her husband’s story. I told my husband that it sounded worrisome, like one of his parents might be terminally ill. Why else would his mom go on and on, trying to find a date we could all convene for a... Read more…

April 19, 2017

Siblings Separated By Adoption

One of the great things about open adoption is you can tailor-make an adoption plan to fit each birth and adoptive family’s situation. This is especially helpful when a birthmother has children she is currently parenting at the time of placement or has plans for future children and wants those children and her placed child(ren) to know one another. One of the big reasons why I personally chose open adoption for my unborn baby, was that open adoption would allow... Read more…

March 28, 2017

Recipe For A Successful Adoption

No one can deny that love is one of the most important ingredients for a successful adoption. However, that alone doesn’t guarantee the process will go smoothly. Feelings aside, what exactly does it take to ensure your adoption goes well? Follow this recipe to increase your chances of having a good experience. One Ethical Professional. Be sure to research and find an agency and/or attorney that is trustworthy and knowledgeable about... Read more…

March 23, 2017

They Tell Us Open Adoption is the Way to Go

When I meet with people beginning the adoption process, they often say to me, “Everyone tells us we should do open adoption—that it’s the way to go these days.” I usually surprise them with my cautioned response, especially since it comes from an adoption social worker. “Yes, open adoptions can go very well,” I say, “But you can’t enter into adoption counting on or planning for openness. It is something that unfolds—or doesn’t—depending on the cast of characters, the circumstances, geography, and personality. It is not something that can... Read more…