Adoption Blog - Adoptimist
March 21, 2017

Hope After A Failed Adoption Match

“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” (Matthew 5:4) This was the one article I have put aside and avoided writing over and over again. This is such a tough situation. On one hand, parenting by the biological parents should be celebrated and supported (in most cases); on the other hand, we, the potential adoptive parents, experience a loss similar to those who have been pregnant and had a miscarriage. Failed... Read more…

March 20, 2017

Adoptee & Birth Parent Writers You Must Read When You’re Adopting

The adoption triad (birth parents, the adoptee, and the adoptive parents) really cannot exist without the other. Once an adoption placement takes place, the three parties are intricately woven for life, regardless of the level of contact. Each piece of the triangle depends upon the other, because without one piece, it will quite possibly crumble.  This is why it’s crucial that those who wish to adopt commit to learning as much as they can about the other triad members: adoptees and birth parents. Now certainly, there is no single experience and... Read more…

March 14, 2017

Interview With Bailey Correll: Legal Representation For Birthparents

Bailey Correll is a clinical medical psychology graduate student at Mercer University in Georgia. Bailey is also a birthmom of 5 years. Bailey is working on an interesting research project from a birth parent’s point of view that looks at the interactions between birth parents and legal professionals before the adoption is finalized. As you may recall, I wrote an article about how I did not meet the attorney who was representing my rights as a birthmother until right before I was about to Read more…

March 13, 2017

Questions To Ask Potential Birth Mothers

Your phone rings. It’s the call you’ve been waiting for: An expectant mother considering adoption would like to meet with you. Your heart races with both excitement and fear. Could this be it? Will this meeting lead to a match? And even more important, what will you say to her? A meeting with a potential birth mom can be very nerve-wracking. Much like a job interview, you’ll want to make a good impression, but it’s also important to be honest and be yourself.... Read more…

March 8, 2017

Preparing (Or Not) For Adoption

I knew a couple once who packed extensively as they waited eagerly for the call. They filled three large suitcases with baby clothes, diapers, and enough clothes for themselves to last a good six months. Then they placed their stuffed suitcases by their front door “because we might not have time to run up to the bedroom to get them”. The suitcases remained there for several weeks, but eventually the call did come and the eager parents were on their way. They flew to an airport in a distant state, rented a Toyota Camry only to discover that their bags would... Read more…

March 6, 2017

Five Practical Ways You Can Bond With Your Newly Adopted Baby

When we adopted our first child, it was a whirlwind experience. We had been waiting fourteen months when we got a phone call saying we had been chosen to adopt a baby girl who was already born. We quickly called an adoption attorney, packed up our car, and drove four hours to our daughter’s birth city.  The minute she was placed in my arms, gazing at me with her inquisitive brown eyes, I felt a swirl of emotions: I was sad for her birth parents, joyful that I was finally a mother, and overwhelmed by the fact that I was responsible for a human life. In... Read more…

March 1, 2017

Birthmother Retreats: What Are They?

Donate to the 2017 Birth Mother Retreat! Thirteen years ago, in the spring of 2005, I was having a late-night phone conversation with my best friend and fellow birthmother, Leilani. She and I had met about a year and half prior as the result of an “is anyone out there” post she had placed on an adoption forum looking for another birthmother who understood what she was going through. I stumbled across that post and emailed her as I was desperately seeking another birthmother to talk to. We had... Read more…

February 27, 2017

Before You Give Up Your Adoption Search

My husband and I recently renewed our home study for yet another year. We are not signed on with an agency because we just do not have the funds. In three years we have had only one match . . . yet, we are not ready to give up searching for our child we long to bring home. I will admit, however, that lately I have been looking up toward heaven and begging for a big sign or some crystal clear guidance. This journey is not easy and often overwhelming. It seems like Read more…

February 22, 2017

Parenting Vs. Adoption: The Toughest Decision You Will Ever Make

Recently I was talking with an expectant mother considering adoption. She was nearly 7 months pregnant and had been going back and forth between parenting and making an adoption plan. She was reaching out to both single mothers and birthmothers trying to find out what it’s really like. “Be totally real with me and tell me everything I need to know as I try to make this decision,” she said. “How did you figure out what was the right decision?” It seems like an easy enough question to answer, right? But unfortunately, there is no road map on how to... Read more…

February 20, 2017

Should You Work With An Adoption Agency?

Paperwork. Home studies. Meetings with expectant parents. Adoption can certainly be a daunting task. So who do you turn to for help navigating the process? Should you work with an adoption agency or opt for an independent adoption through an attorney? Let’s take a look at the pros and cons of working with an adoption agency. A licensed agency is essentially a one-stop resource for all things adoption. Agency workers can help you manage the complex adoption process from the very first meeting all the way through to your post-placement visits and... Read more…