We are Brian and Gordon -- a responsible, yet adventurous couple who cannot wait to be parents! We pay our bills on time, exercise, and always eat our vegetables. We love being goofy and making each other laugh by making funny voices and embarrassing each other in public. We have been married for almost three years and are so ready for our next chapter.
We have ALWAYS wanted children - from day one of meeting. It's not really the best first date conversation, but somehow it came out very early on. As gay men, we consciously have to choose to be parents and that has always been part of our life plans, even before we met.
We want to be the kind of parents who encourage continuously, love unconditionally, and celebrate whoever our children are; offering them support all along the way.
OPEN-MINDED AND NON-JUDGMENTAL
People describe us both as humble, warm, loving, and open-minded. We think of people as individuals who have their own unique stories, emotions, fears, and dreams. We accept people for who they are because they are in fact; unique.
As gay men (and Gordon being bi-racial), we are minorities and have faced discrimination throughout our lives. We think that’s why people tend to notice our openness.
If we get to meet you, we promise to be open-minded, warm and loving, no matter what your story is.
GRATEFUL FOR ALL OF OUR BLESSINGS
We have so many reasons to be grateful. We like to remind ourselves to notice all of the good things in our lives; especially our family and friends and all of the fun experiences we get to share together.
We both come from two-parent households. We share a strong community of friends and family. We are well-educated and are fortunate enough to have good jobs that we enjoy.
We met 7 years ago in San Francisco. Brian was living out there finishing up school and Gordon was in town from New York City visiting a friend. The spark was immediate and we recognized that we shared many interests and values, such as; spending time with family and friends, traveling, biking, exploring new restaurants and coffee shops, and being silly and having a good laugh.
Early on in dating (LONG distance San Francisco → New York!), we both shared that one day we wanted to get married and have kids. Marriage wasn’t legal everywhere for us yet but we were both hopeful that one day it would be! But we both knew that we certainly wanted kids.
After about a year and a half of long distance dating, Brian ended up moving to New York to be with Gordon. We lived there together for a couple years and enjoyed all that NYC had to offer. We built a strong group of friends together and eventually moved in and shared a home together. One day, while we were taking a bike ride together, Brian proposed to Gordon on the Williamsburg Bridge in the same spot where we took our first picture together four years previously. Gordon was in shock but gave a resounding “yes!” After, we headed back to our apartment where Gordon got another shock as 30 of our family and friends jumped out to surprise him!
Later that year, we left NYC to settle down in Chicago near Brian’s close-knit family. We wanted to get married and raise kids near them; surrounded by parents, siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles and dear friends. We got married surrounded by all of our loved ones and saved up to buy a condo together so that we could continue to work towards the dream of having a family.
We live in a two bedroom, two bathroom condo with lots of light filling the open floor plan. It’s a gorgeous home that we renovated, designed, and curated to be a place filled with warmth and love. It’s a place we love to host friends and family at. Two Christmas’ ago, we had 40 family members over for the annual gathering!
At home, we love to spend time relaxing, cooking, watching movies, and planning for adoption!
Our place is in a very safe Chicago neighborhood called West Loop. It is a really exciting place to live! There are many new restaurants, buildings, and fun parks opening every month. The neighborhood is also home to one of the highest rated elementary and middle schools in the city. It’s a school dedicated to the arts and it’s only a half mile walk from our place.
The neighborhood is also very diverse, which is important to us. There are all walks of life living here, from race to sexual orientation, we live harmoniously within a few city blocks.
We have almost everything here, from good Chicago pizza to sushi, it’s all here. There are grocery stores, kid-friendly restaurants, bars, and a bowling alley. Everything is so close, we can just walk to it all!
Brian is a clinical psychologist in Chicago and works for himself downtown. He helps people work through various struggles in their lives and helps them find relief in his kind and supportive approach. He truly loves his job and is excited by helping people feel better and live fuller lives. Outside the office, Brian loves going for runs and getting coffee with friends. He can often be found on his bike next to Gordon on the way to check out the fun new restaurant.
Gordon is a software designer in Chicago for a startup company. He enjoys being creative and working with his team to come up with new ideas and solve problems. He loves connecting with people at work and gets to travel a bit to the office in Arizona. When he’s not at work, he likes working on home projects, riding his bike everywhere, cooking, working out at the gym, and spending time with Brian and family and friends.