Before Looking For A Family For Your Baby...
Here are a few things to think about before you begin searching for a family to raise your baby:
1. What type of adoption plan do I want?
In order for your adoption to be successful, you should choose an adoptive family that has the same (or similar) adoption type (closed, open, etc.) in mind. Think of the type and amount of contact you would like and look for families that have similar views.
2. How important is it that my baby be raised in a two-parent family?
One of the reasons some women consider adoption is that they are not able to provide a stable two-parent family for their baby. However, it is important to mention that two-parent families may not always remain that way. Adoptive couples are not immune to separations, divorce, and even death.
3. Is it important that my baby have a stay-at-home parent?
Some women consider adoption because they cannot remain at home with their babies. So a stay-at-home mother may be a very important attribute. Again, keep in mind that circumstances change, children grow, and mothers may eventually need or choose to go back to work.
4. Do I want my baby to be an only child or do I want him or her to have siblings?
There are many adoptive families who already have children. And having siblings may be very important to you. Or you may prefer that your child be the first, and possibly only, in a particular family.
5. How important is religion?
For some women considering adoption, religion is extremely important. You may wish to choose a family that is of the same religion so that your child grows up within a particular faith. For others, religion may not be a deciding factor at all.
6. Does location matter?
If you want a fairly open adoption, you may wish to choose a family that is not too far away.
7. Is the ethnicity of the adoptive family important to you?
Some expectant mothers who are having a biracial baby will choose a couple with at least one parent of the same race. This way, the child can more easily grow up learning about his or her ethnicity.