We met each other at a church event in 2001: Michelle was a professional nanny for a family and Nate had just graduated from college and gotten a new job. Michelle was almost immediately smitten, but it took Nate about two years to notice her attention… whoops! We dated for about six months, but neither of us was mature enough for marriage, so we broke up; Michelle moved to India for about 5 years to work with orphans and street-children, and Nate remained in the States. When Michelle came back to the USA for a break, we reconnected and got to know each other (again), and when she left again for India a few weeks later, Nate knew that he finally loved Michelle and wanted to marry her… and he desperately hoped that she felt the same way! Thankfully, she did: Michelle came back to the USA in January 2009 so that Nate could man-up and pursue her romantically. We got engaged in September 2009, and were married in January 2010.
Why We Are Choosing Adoption:
Since we were kids, we have both wanted to have a large family (about 5 kids), and we’ve both always wanted to “make” one or two of those kids and to adopt the rest, so once we were married we got to work trying to make some babies! Because of some fertility problems that we found out we had, it took a long time, a lot of effort, and a lot of prayers before we finally got pregnant with our biological son, Parker. Since his birth in 2015, we’ve tried to get pregnant again without success, and we understand now that God wants the rest of our kids to be adopted.
We believe that adoption is a beautiful gift from God to the child, the birth parents, and the adoptive parents. In fact, adoption is precisely what Christian faith is all about: the Bible says that each of us is cut off from God because of the wrong things that we do, but that God will adopt us as his children and bring us to live with Him in Heaven when we die if we accept the forgiveness that His son, Jesus Christ, offers us. We’re so glad that God wanted to adopt us, and we’re eager to respond in kind by adopting children who can’t stay with their birth parents.
We are both Christians and we will raise our children in our faith. We want our children to know that God has a wonderful plan for their lives, and we want to help them learn how to be followers of Jesus Christ. We want to teach our children that God loves them unconditionally, and we love them unconditionally, as well.
Our faith in Jesus Christ is the foundation on which we live our lives, and we hope to be positive role models for our children by teaching them to be kind and respect others. We want our relationship with our children to be strong and open, and we pray that they will feel comfortable coming to us with any questions, problems, concerns, or worries that they may have. We will always be there for them, no matter what, and will always give them our unconditional love and support.
Our biological son, Parker, is 3½ years old. He was born prematurely, but is doing just fine now. Parker loves trains, fire trucks, ambulances… really, anything with wheels! He is creative and has an active imagination, using his stuffed animals as characters in his play time. He spends hours digging in the dirt or sand and, if we were to let him, he would probably live outdoors! Parker LOVES to read and we spend a lot of time reading a variety of books. One of our favorite books to read together is called Dragons Love Tacos… it’s as funny as the title sounds!
Parker loves other children and will be a fantastic brother. When he’s around babies he’ll get down on the floor next to them and talk sweetly to them and smile. He’s gentle and tender-hearted and he loves to bring treats to his friends. He loves snuggles, tickles, doing crafts, wrestling with dad, helping to cook or bake in the kitchen, and helping Dad do projects in his workshop.
Our Home & Community:
We live in a single-family home in a quiet, safe, well-kept neighborhood with wonderful neighbors who have become our friends. There are several parks and other fun activities nearby, and good public and private schools available to us. We like living in the suburbs – we’re about 20 minutes away from the downtown areas so we can enjoy all the attractions they offer, and just a short drive from the “country” so we can go enjoy nature.
Family is tremendously important to us, and we make efforts to remain involved with our extended families (parents, siblings, cousins, etc.). Nate has one sister who lives very close by with her husband and two young kids, and his parents live nearby, as well - we usually see them at least once per week, and Parker sometimes has awesome sleepovers with his grandparents that he really looks forward to. Michelle has two sisters and one brother – the brother lives close by, but everyone else lives out of town.
Michelle Talks about Nate:
“When I first met Nate back in 2001 I was struck by his loving relationship with God and his fun, enthusiastic demeanor. Seventeen years later, these things are still evident, and he cares for our family in such a tender and sacrificial way. He loves me, respects me, makes me smile and laugh, and I love our life together. He’s my best friend and I love him more each day.
Nate is smart, humble, light-hearted, and funny; telling some pretty impressive “dad jokes”. Cheesy as they may be, I really do love them. He is steady and calm in the midst of difficulty and I find great comfort in knowing that he is trusting God whether life is easy or hard. I love watching him be a dad and I know he loves the gift of being a father. He’s one of the dads our friends’ kids all flock to because he’s always doing something fun like having a water balloon fight, doing canon ball contests in the pool, or playing games.”
What Nate Likes to Do:
First and foremost, I enjoy spending time doing pretty much anything with Michelle and Parker – since I was a kid, my heart’s desire has been to be a Husband and Dad. More specifically, I’m a bit of a nerd… hopefully in a good way! I like to read (mainly sci-fi and fantasy, sometimes biographies or current events), and often listen to audiobooks when I’m doing something else. I like to play immersive, story-driven video games or strategy games – while I can still whoop people at multiplayer Halo, I’m now much more into games that have a great story and that I can play in short chunks. I’m also learning carpentry, and learning how to do various repairs around the house. I like to take our family camping, and I love super-cheesy “dad jokes” and terrible puns… Michelle hears the same jokes over and over when I tell them to new friends, and she (usually) plays along! I’m also a big fan of great sci-fi TV shows and movies like the various Star Treks, Star Wars, Stargate, Battlestar Galactica, and The Expanse.
Nate as Work-From-Home Dad
We love the fact that Nate almost always works from home! He works as a computer security expert and only occasionally has to travel for his job – most days he works from our house and hangs out with Michelle and Parker for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and random playtimes and chore-times throughout the day. Nate is a hard worker and is very successful in his career, and he provides our family with a comfortable lifestyle so that Michelle can be home each day with Parker. He has formed strong friendships at work and is well respected by his employers and co-workers. He really enjoys his job and hopes to stay with his current company for the rest of his career.
Nate Talks about Michelle:
“Michelle is a tender-hearted, funny, spunky, detail-oriented woman who drives me crazy in all the right ways! I appreciate that she loves God first and me second, and that she strives to please Him in everything that she does. Michelle is weak in areas where I am strong, and strong in areas where I am weak, making her a wonderful match for me (and me for her)! I’m so attracted to and thankful for her love of children and desire to nurture them; her natural tendency to serve others in the background, without credit and with a great attitude; her desire and willingness to change for the better; and her great patience with me and the various ways that I tend to irritate her – she’s a saint! (She’s also really pretty and I adore her, so that’s super nice, too!) “
What Michelle Likes to Do:
“Growing up I always loved singing, and I take great joy in being able to be a part of a local symphony chorus as well as singing at church on a regular basis. Music is a big part of our everyday life! I also love to be creative in the kitchen, making healthy and delicious dishes for our family and for others. I enjoy going to the gym to workout, hiking when possible, and spending time with friends.
“My relationship with God is very important to me and I am regularly involved in a women’s bible study at church. I want to be a faithful and loving wife and mom and I know I can’t do that without God’s help and guidance.”
Michelle as a Stay-At-Home Mom:
“When we got married I knew that, if possible, I wanted to be a stay at home mom when we had kids. Thankfully, when we had Parker, it was feasible for me to stay at home. It really is a gift, one I hope not to take for granted. I love being with our son; helping him as he learns and grows, teaching him to explore the beautiful creation God has made, and encouraging him to try new things.
We often get together with friends for outings to parks, museums, & the zoo. Once a week I hold a “class” at our house, called “Mornings with Miss Michelle”. Four other children around the same age as Parker join us for a time of learning through crafts, creative play, songs, and other activities.”