From Our Hearts to Yours,
We have no idea what you’re going through right now and can only imagine the anguish you’ve experienced in this turbulent time in your life. You’re probably afraid, and you’re probably wondering how you’re going to get through to the other side.
You will get through. You’re going to make it. You’re strong. You’re a giving, loving person, and the decision you’ve made to give life to another is the most valuable gift that anybody can give. You’re a hero and we can’t tell you how much we admire you. Thank you for making this decision.
Whoever does choose us to raise their baby girl, will be giving our family the opportunity to realize a life long dream. We have been blessed to raise three wonderful boys who’ve grown into three wonderful young men. We're young to be called "empty-nesters", but that is what we will be in a matter of months. We thought of all the things we might want to do now that our big house would not be filled with the sound of children. So we’ve embarked on a journey to expand our family and adopt a daughter. Without the gift of one selfless person like you, our dream can’t come true.
The life that you’ve produced would grow in our home like the vines that climb up the walls of our old Victorian house. We want to take care of that life. We’ll nurture it, water it, feed it and protect it. We will cherish it. The love that surrounds her will be like fertile soil that encourages her growth. She will thrive.
I will share with her the things in life that are magical and fulfilling. I will teach her about the hope that comes with planting a seed in the Spring or a flower bulb in the Fall. I long to share with her stories of the fairies that take care of the plants and animals. I want to share the joy of sitting in a hammock swing on a warm summer day, just feeling the gentle breeze and listening to the birds and the wind through the trees. I want to teach her to listen to nature because the trees, the wind, and the animals speak to us in their own way. I want to teach her to love and take care of the Earth. I want to raise her to believe that there is a Divine Creator that is called many names by many different religions, and this Divine Creator is a source of great love, not judgment. I want to read many, many books to her in the armchair by the woodstove on cold winter nights, just like I did with her big brothers. I look forward to picking out matching dresses for her and me to wear on the holidays and putting little bows in her hair. I want to teach her how beautiful and unique she is, but I also want her to know that real beauty isn’t about how we look, but how we live. I want to show her how good it feels to be kind and compassionate to others, especially those that have less than us and are hurting. I want to share with her the smell of the rain and teach her to look for the rainbow that almost always shows up to the East of our house. I want to teach her about the constellations, the phases of the moon, and how truly special a full moon is. I want to let her stay up late some nights and snuggle with her in a sleeping bag out on our deck and watch the meteor showers. I want to show her how peaceful and healing a long walk in the woods can be. I want to help her with her homework. Well, except for math because I’m really bad at it! I want to go to all her after-school activities, whether it’s sports, theater, or dance.
As she gets older, I want to teach her that her body is a sacred thing and that, by setting boundaries, she can protect, honor, and take care of it.
I want to take her to pick out prom dresses, just like my mom did with me. I want to show her how awesome it is to own your own car, even if it’s ten years old! I want to be there for her if her heart gets broken, even if she doesn’t want to talk. I’ll encourage her to follow her dreams after high school, and help her out with college, if that’s what she chooses. I’ll encourage her to express herself through journaling, music, or art of any kind.
I want her to know about you. I want to teach her that she has two moms that love her equally as much. I want to tell her how you made, probably the hardest decision of your life, out of love for her. I want her to know that she was not “given up” or “deserted” but shared by a woman who wanted the best for her and still does.
I see her playing with her older brothers’ Legos. I see her playing soccer and basketball. I see her growing into a rambunctious, inquisitive child. I see her growing into a beautiful young woman.
She’s a princess. She’s tough. She’s kind. She’s a highlight of our existence. Maybe she’s just like you.
We’ll create memories. Our refrigerator will display her many accomplishments. There’s the picture she drew. Here’s that third grade report card. We’ve got photos from her games and playbills from the high school productions she’s performed in. There was the summer she learned to drive and the day she got her license. There was the time she walked across the stage and got her diploma and set out on her own career.
Maybe I’ll have the privilege to someday walk her down the aisle and support her as she launches her own family. Maybe the day will come when out of her own selfless love she gives life to another. And I’ll remind her of your selfless love for her.
(Libby and Tom)
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Thank you for taking the time to read about us. We wish you peace and joy wherever your journey takes you.