Happy Mother’s Day!
We are blessed to have wonderful mothers and women in our lives. It is great to honor all of these women on Mother’s Day. My wonderful mother-in-law, Marilyn, who welcomed me into the family, is a former computer programmer, and expert chocolate chip cookie baker. My strong stepmother, Laura, who has been part of my family since i was 11, is a business owner in a male dominated industry, and is one of the best women to have by your side. My amazing mom, Jeanne, who started it all, is a musician, a business woman, a loving mom, and is always there for a hug, words of support, and a laugh. I am so thankful I can call each of these mothers mine.
Mother’s day in adoptive families is extra special. Our child will have many women to celebrate this day as well. They will have at least two mothers to remember & call on this day. Both mother’s will shape them in different ways as they grow up. This poem I believe captures this feeling.
“Once there were two women who never knew each other
One you [will] remember, the other you call Mother
Two different lives shaped to make you one
One became your guiding star, the other became your sun
The first one gave you life, and the second taught you to live it
The first gave you a need for love, the second was there to give it
One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name
One gave you a talent, the other gave you aim
One gave you emotions, the other calmed your fears
One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried you tears
One made an adoption plan, that was all that she could do
The other prayed for a child, and God led her straight to you.
Now, which of these two women, Are you the product of?
Both, my darling, Both, Just two different types of love.”
On this mother’s day I find myself looking forward. Mike & I have been in the process to adopt for about 4 years now. Each mother’s day during this process has been a bit harder than the last. I am so excited to have a child & to get to spend time with them on this day. I am looking forward to being woken up in the wee hours because they are excited to start the day. I am excited about going outside with them, going on a bike ride or playing with dirt in the garden. I am even looking forward to being able to comfort them when they cry, with hugs, soothing words, and assurance that they are safe with me. In short, I am looking forward to all the ups & all the downs that motherhood will bring. Each year that passes during our wait is a reminder that I am not yet able to experience motherhood. I am hoping that next year will be the year.
We are huge musical fans. We have season tickets to a local theater company and go to see many shows at other theaters throughout the Twin Cities. We are lucky that the Twin Cities has an amazing theater scene, we have the 2nd most seats per capita in the country (after New York).
We both grew up with musicals as movie mainstays in our homes. Kristia grew up with Roger’s & Hammerstein’s Cinderella, My Fair Lady, and of course The Sound of Music. Mike grew up with the Music Man, Phantom of the Opera, My Fair Lady, and on and on. Naturally the Disney Musicals were also heavily played in both our child hoods, with Mary Poppins, Aladdin, The Lion King, and Little Mermaid all in rotation.
Once we met, we each had a date to go to every musical we could find. Recent favorites include Frozen (we will not Let It Go), Moana, The Gentleman’s Guide to Love and Murder, La La Land, The Producers and Hamilton (be cause how could you not). If you happen to accidentally start a song from any of our favorite musicals we will start singing the rest, so Be Prepared ♫for the chance of a lifetime♫
This April we took a trip to New York City to go to the Musical Mecca - Broadway. We saw Hello Dolly! with Bette Midler and David Hyde Pierce. Bette Midler was fantastic as Dolly Gallagher Levi, perfectly over the top and a great successor to Ethel Merman and Carol Channing. The costumes, dancing, and singing were all amazing. We also saw The Play that Goes Wrong which was a hilarious play where absolutely everything that could go wrong on stage goes wrong.
While we were in New York we also spent a day at the American Museum of Natural History & Hayden Planetarium. Mike was giddy about getting to see so many space things in one place. He read every sign in the Planetarium. We also saw lots of the amazing dioramas and artifacts stored at the Museum. Naturally we couldn’t leave without seeing the dinosaurs either. Dinosaurs are huge! We knew that, but when you stand next to the skeletons you can really feel their scale.
Back here in the Twin Cities, we have an amazing Children’s Theater that is connected to a museum with awesome things like the armor for medieval knights! We are excited to have child who we can take to the theater to see Cinderella, How the Grinch Stole Christmas, or Corduroy. We’ll also head to see the latest musicals that come to the movieplex, with a big box of popcorn and even bigger smiles.