To Someone Special,
Dear Current Stranger/Future Friend,
Thank you for taking the time to read and learn about us! While we can’t imagine what you are currently facing, we wish you the best as you work to make the challenging decisions that lie ahead of you. We believe that placing a child for adoption is a loving and selfless act, and we have the utmost respect for anyone who makes this decision. We hope you find peace and comfort along your way as you strive to find what is best for you and your child.
Rebecca and I met at Brigham Young University (BYU). In our congregation, my roommate and I were assigned to home teach her and her roommates. (Home teaching is a program in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to make sure everyone is supported and cared for). It’s a little awkward to try dating people you home teach, but after about a year of becoming good friends, I decided I would risk asking her out. Apparently, it was worth the risk. She was usually shy and reserved, but on that first date, she was almost giddy. We dated for several more months and then I proposed at Thanksgiving time after taking her on a surprise horse-back ride. I’m not a huge animal lover, but I knew she couldn’t refuse me if horses were involved, especially since practically every note she ever wrote me was signed “ - <3 - Rebecca…Horses are Awesome!” So…we got married on Cinco de Mayo, 2007 – complete with a wedding cake piñata. (Don’t worry, we had a real wedding cake too.)
We soon graduated from BYU and moved to Clearfield, UT where I was hired by Northrop Grumman (an aerospace engineering company) and I’ve been there ever since. I really enjoy the work I do and am glad that the company has been growing a lot lately.
For members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints especially, you would think after 12 years of marriage we’d have at least 4 or 5 kids by now! Right? We wanted about four children total, but so far we only have two. Austin, our biological son, is a super silly, super energetic, 9 year old. We adopted Emma as an older child. She is also 9, being just a few months older than Austin. She is creative and musical. We know our family is still not complete though. In truth, our difficulties in having more biological children have been extremely frustrating to us. Over time, we have felt increasingly discouraged and drained by the lack of results achieved through various tests, treatments, and other efforts. Since we haven’t been successful in having many children on our own yet, we feel that adoption is God’s plan for us right now. Hey! Maybe you are part of God’s plan for us too! That would be awesome! Even more awesome than horses!
As we have turned to adoption, we have learned a lot about open adoptions and how positive such relationships can be for everyone involved. Therefore, we would ideally prefer to have an open adoption as we believe this is ultimately the healthiest adoption situation. We are pretty good at keeping in contact with people and would be happy to send updates to a birth family. We are also happy to be flexible as to the level of openness for an adoption based on what will work best for your and our situations.
You obviously want to get to know each of us as best you can. We think hearing each of our perspectives will help you with that.