My parents wanted me to grow into a respectful person so they included the Chinese character for “respect” in my name. My name “Kyoko” which means “respectful child”. I didn’t change my name when I came to the US because I wanted to honor my parents and their loving thoughts towards me.
I was born in and raised in a northern, fairly rural area of Japan. I was raised by both my biological parents and grandparents. I am the oldest of their two children (I have a younger brother). As a young adult I loved talking with children. My parents wanted me to become a teacher so I studied education in Tokyo, which is a much bigger city than where I grew up. During my college years I realized how much I loved creating art in visual media such as painting and drawing. I found myself being drawn to some kind of profession related to visual art. After I graduated, I worked as a teacher for 3 years in Japan and then I came to the US to study graphic design. After graduating college in Massachusetts, I began my career as a graphic designer.
I was married for about 10 years but about 2 years ago we got divorced. During our marriage we tried infertility treatments but they didn’t go well. It was after this that my now ex-husband told me honestly that he didn’t want to be a parent anymore. After much consideration we chose divorce. My ex-husband knows how much I want to have a child and he supports my desire to be a parent through adoption. We are still very close and I consider him to be a good friend. We are fortunate to still remain close even though we are not longer married. My friends are also very supportive of my decision to adopt and I am so grateful for their blessing. I have several other close male friends besides my ex-husband that would be good role models for my child as well.
As I mentioned before, I love to dance Zumba and go to the gym to exercise after work. I practiced Hawaiian dancing for 9 years and Salsa for 3 years and still love to watch Hula and Salsa performances. I love to listen to Hawaiian music as well as Latin music (Zumba music and Latin pop). I enjoy growing vegetables and flowers in my backyard garden. I like watching Japanese TV shows at night to relax. Sometimes I go to get a massage or I will go to a Korean spa to relax even more. I have a love for cooking and eating out. Hiking and walking are my choice for weekend exercise. I enjoy the sights and sounds while taking pictures and this satisfies my curiosity and interest in people, nature, and the many exciting things happening in my neighborhood as well as in and around Los Angeles. I love other cultures and I am always interested in learning new things. When I have the opportunity to interact with other people from other cultures, I always try to learn about their culture, food, habits, etc.
I am responsible, honest and carry through with things I’ve started until they’re completed. I understand the importance of respecting deadlines and keeping promises.
I have a 4 bedroom/3 bathroom home with both a front and back yard. This allows plenty of room for outside playing. I’d like for my child to have a good balance of outdoor and indoor play. My house is located in a safe and quiet neighborhood - and is in a mixed community filled with neighbors of different cultures including Asian, Hispanic,African American and Caucasian. I believe a child of any ethnicity would feel included and part of the community here.
My home is less than a block from a distinguished elementary school. When my friends’ kids stay overnight at home, we walk together to this school and I drop off them. It’s a nice 5 minute walk. I imagine my everyday 5 minute walk with my child to school will be really fun!
The neighborhood community members really take care of each other and offer lots of neighborhood involvement opportunities through different organizations. I often see my neighbors out taking walks with their family members and with their pets. I would like to walk with my child in a stroller with my neighbors or just the two of us and talk about what we want for dinner or what we will do next weekend and so on.
I’m a few blocks away from both the middle and high schools that serve this area. My home is centrally located near two highways with access to several different supermarkets, restaurants, a few city parks, and only about 20 minutes to the beach. It would be perfect to go to the beach and relax together, then go grocery shopping together for the week after that.
Here are some quotes about me from a few close friends.
“Kyoko is very kind-hearted and has a deep love for people, especially children. She is also very practical and has a strong ability to overcome difficult situations with determination and hard work. I believe that because of her unique combination of love, creativity and strong caregiver instincts she will make an ideal parent. ”
“Kyoko is cheerful, generous, kind, and LOVES children."
“She had very good communication with my grandson, he often preferred to stay with Kyoko because he genuinely enjoyed playing with her and her company more. She had a very good sense of what a kid My grandson’s age liked and how she can care for him well. Also she gave him a lot of comfort when they were together.”
“Kyoko is attentive and loving and completely capable to care for a young infant. I have also seen her interactions with older children as well as she gets them ready for school and helps them with their homework. She is able to provide them with care and instructions and if needed discipline.”
”She is always willing to help other people. She is very cheerful and carries things through. Once she's made up her mind, she never gives up. Her very kind and affectionate personality makes me feel at ease.”
Additionally, my friends describe me as smart, strong, cheerful, generous, thoughtful, and willing to help others. I am not always very talkative but I do love talking with people and getting to know them better. I can’t ignore people in trouble and I sincerely want to help them. My friends know my history, and they know how resilient I can be (with some help from them). They believe that I have the strength to face new challenges and will flourish as a new parent. They know how much love I have to give a child.
I am diligent and work hard, I like to observe my growth as I overcome new challenges. Since I came to the US, I’ve had to overcome some difficult times. I’ve become stronger because of them and I hope to impart my ability to optimistically overcome challenges to my child. I’ve also learned that having a close circle of friends you can count on and a sense of community are key as well.
I understand heartbreak in its many forms and what it’s like to feel alone/out of place, or like a stranger surrounded by many people. I strongly believe that this will help me empathize with my child and help them learn to be strong and deal positively with a world that can be difficult at times.