We’ve been together for over 12 years now. Seth grew up in rural Illinois, and Chris grew up in Connecticut. We met back in 2005 when we were both nerdy students at Iowa State University. Our shared interests in animals and video games brought us together, and in 2010 we got married on campus. After moving around a bit for temporary work, we were lucky to both land stable, long-term jobs together in upstate New York in 2012. Chris is a biology professor at a public college near Syracuse, and Seth is a veterinarian at a small animal clinic (for cats and dogs). We’re now in our mid-30’s and ready to grow our family.
In the winter, our house is usually covered in snow, but in the summer we like to grill on our back deck and spend time outside in the garden. We also live down the street from a large park, where we often take the dog for walks.
We have a dog, Daphne, and a cat, Zephyr. We also have several pet turtles, some of which Chris has had for about twenty years now! Last summer one of them laid eggs and we hatched two baby turtles.
In the summer we spend a lot of time gardening and tending to our potted fig trees. When we’re not outside, we’re usually inside cooking (our favorite: pizza). Chris’s dad has worked as a baker for about 40 years, so baking is a big family tradition for us, and we’re excited to pass it on to another generation.
When Seth and I first met, I was drawn to him because we both had the same nerdy interests and laughed so much whenever we spent time together. He was (and still is) very close with his friends, and I like how open he is about things around his friends and family—there’s never any need to feel embarrassed around him because he embraces the humor in every situation.
I definitely appreciate Seth’s easygoing personality. Whenever I find myself stressed about something, he helps me keep things in perspective by telling me to take a break from worrying and do something fun. Watching him enjoy his many and varied hobbies—from knitting and playing piano to video games and cooking—always reminds me to relax instead of worrying too much about things that don’t matter in the long run.
Seth’s family and friends are extremely important to him. He’s generous (everyone we know has a hand-knitted scarf or mittens from him) and caring (as a veterinarian, he goes out of his way to make sure his patients get the treatment they need, and he gets frequent calls from friends and family asking for pet advice). When his niece Millie was born, I had to hold him back from buying her too many baby outfits and story books all at once, but I loved how he insisted on getting her a combination of “girls” and “boys” things so that she’ll grow up feeling encouraged to be herself. And most importantly, Seth’s job requires him to deal with vomit and other bodily fluids every day, so he’ll be ready for all the dirty diapers and more that come along with being a parent.
When I first met Chris, we were both still in school. I learned early on that he is patient and rational. Our busy schedules left little time for dating, but we made time for each other when we could. We appreciated our time together, whether it was studying together at the coffee shop or watching each other play video games. Perhaps most importantly, my dog took an instant liking to him, and within a few months she seemed to like Chris better than me.
Chris’s brain is always working. He is quite dedicated to whatever projects he takes on. The most obvious example of this is his scientific research; one day he decided to look closely at some pill bugs out in the yard. Four years later he had a full research project (with international collaborators) about pill bug genetics. He also recently decided to teach himself French, and is almost fluent after only 2 years.
Chris is a selfless loving person. I often come home from a long day at work to a tidy house and a home cooked meal, usually after Chris has had his own full day of work. He can often be found throwing the tennis ball for the dog (her greatest joy!) even if he is exhausted himself.
Chris can be shy and awkward sometimes, but put a kid in front of him and he’s suddenly a natural. Between dealing with his students and putting up with me, he has learned patience. He has so much love to share, and he will be an amazing father.