Adoption Blog - Adoptimist
March 20, 2017

Adoptee & Birth Parent Writers You Must Read When You’re Adopting

The adoption triad (birth parents, the adoptee, and the adoptive parents) really cannot exist without the other. Once an adoption placement takes place, the three parties are intricately woven for life, regardless of the level of contact. Each piece of the triangle depends upon the other, because without one piece, it will quite possibly crumble.  This is why it’s crucial that those who wish to adopt commit to learning as much as they can about the other triad members: adoptees and birth parents. Now certainly, there is no single experience and... Read more…

March 13, 2017

Questions To Ask Potential Birth Mothers

Your phone rings. It’s the call you’ve been waiting for: An expectant mother considering adoption would like to meet with you. Your heart races with both excitement and fear. Could this be it? Will this meeting lead to a match? And even more important, what will you say to her? A meeting with a potential birth mom can be very nerve-wracking. Much like a job interview, you’ll want to make a good impression, but it’s also important to be honest and be yourself.... Read more…

March 8, 2017

Preparing (Or Not) For Adoption

I knew a couple once who packed extensively as they waited eagerly for the call. They filled three large suitcases with baby clothes, diapers, and enough clothes for themselves to last a good six months. Then they placed their stuffed suitcases by their front door “because we might not have time to run up to the bedroom to get them”. The suitcases remained there for several weeks, but eventually the call did come and the eager parents were on their way. They flew to an airport in a distant state, rented a Toyota Camry only to discover that their bags would... Read more…

March 6, 2017

Five Practical Ways You Can Bond With Your Newly Adopted Baby

When we adopted our first child, it was a whirlwind experience. We had been waiting fourteen months when we got a phone call saying we had been chosen to adopt a baby girl who was already born. We quickly called an adoption attorney, packed up our car, and drove four hours to our daughter’s birth city.  The minute she was placed in my arms, gazing at me with her inquisitive brown eyes, I felt a swirl of emotions: I was sad for her birth parents, joyful that I was finally a mother, and overwhelmed by the fact that I was responsible for a human life. In... Read more…

February 27, 2017

Before You Give Up Your Adoption Search

My husband and I recently renewed our home study for yet another year. We are not signed on with an agency because we just do not have the funds. In three years we have had only one match . . . yet, we are not ready to give up searching for our child we long to bring home. I will admit, however, that lately I have been looking up toward heaven and begging for a big sign or some crystal clear guidance. This journey is not easy and often overwhelming. It seems like Read more…

February 20, 2017

Should You Work With An Adoption Agency?

Paperwork. Home studies. Meetings with expectant parents. Adoption can certainly be a daunting task. So who do you turn to for help navigating the process? Should you work with an adoption agency or opt for an independent adoption through an attorney? Let’s take a look at the pros and cons of working with an adoption agency. A licensed agency is essentially a one-stop resource for all things adoption. Agency workers can help you manage the complex adoption process from the very first meeting all the way through to your post-placement visits and... Read more…

February 14, 2017

Ten Adoption Themed Children’s Picture Books, Just in Time for Valentine’s Day

As a mom-by-adoption to four children, we have tons of adoption picture books in our home. They open the door to conversation, encouraging our children to ask questions, and help them to navigate through their feelings.  Valentine’s Day presents the perfect opportunity to add to your child’s library. Here are ten wonderful picture books featuring adoption and love themes:  1:  Read more…

February 7, 2017

Eight Ways to Love Your Child’s Birth Parents

I’m a mom of four children, each with an open adoption with their birth family. Open adoption is intricate, and sometimes families get so lost in details that they forget about the joys that come with the gift of openness. With some planning and thoughtfulness, you can extend love to your children’s birth families. Here are some suggestions:  1:  Keep Your Promises This is essential! When you keep your promises, such as... Read more…

January 31, 2017

A Prayer For Adoptive Parents

Being a parent is an amazing, challenging, awesome, and exhausting blessing. No matter how moms become moms and dads become dads – parenting is a full-time job with hours that never end. When someone becomes a parent through adoption – all the blessings and challenges of being a parent exist, but there are added dimensions that bring added stress. Knowing the huge responsibility it is to be a parent, I think it is safe to say that... Read more…

January 26, 2017

Adopting a Second Child — Don’t Get Cold Feet

I spoke today, by chance, with two of my former adoption clients. They are very different women in so many ways, and they had very different adoption stories. One woman is married; the other is single. One adopted a boy with about an hour’s notice; the other, a girl with whose birthmother she was matched at five months. One is a stay-at-home mom; the other, a career woman. One is in her early thirties; the other, her late forties. Two very different women, but they expressed two things... Read more…