Adoption Blog - Adoptimist
March 21, 2017

Hope After A Failed Adoption Match

“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” (Matthew 5:4) This was the one article I have put aside and avoided writing over and over again. This is such a tough situation. On one hand, parenting by the biological parents should be celebrated and supported (in most cases); on the other hand, we, the potential adoptive parents, experience a loss similar to those who have been pregnant and had a miscarriage. Failed... Read more…

October 27, 2016

What You Should Know About Meeting Birth Parents

Connections. They are what make life complete, allowing you to relate to another human being. We all have strong connections with our family, friends, or those we have known a long time. But how can we connect with an expectant mother we haven’t even met? How do we form a bond with someone who is faced with one of the biggest decisions of her life: Whether or not to place her baby for adoption? Through my experiences with adoption, I have found there are a few important things you can do when you Read more…

August 23, 2013

Tips For Meeting With a Potential Birth Mom

The day you’ve been waiting for has arrived: a potential birth mom is interested in you and wants to meet. No doubt you’re feeling a variety of emotions: excited, nervous, happy, and apprehensive. How do you make sure your meeting goes well? Here are some tips that can definitely make a difference. • Admit You’re Nervous. When my husband and I met with a potential birth mom for the first time during the adoption process, we told her right away that we were nervous. She smiled and replied that she was too. Adoption is a big, life-altering event for... Read more…

July 19, 2013

What Every Adoptive Parent Longs To Tell Their Child’s Birthmom

Many couples considering adoption wonder what relationship, if any, they will have with their child’s birth mom. How will this person fit into your life and your child’s life? What role will she play? Having been through the adoption process, I can honesty tell you that it all works out. In fact, one day you may even be amazed at just how special this person has become to you. I remember when my husband and I met our daughter’s birth mom – a complete stranger – at the hospital just hours before she gave birth. I was almost 37 at the time and had... Read more…

July 3, 2013

She Changed Her Mind: Ten Tips For Dealing With Your Lost Adoption Connection

As is part of the adoption process, sometimes plans can change at the last minute, leaving adoptive families devastated. While everyone keeps in mind the rights and wishes of the birthmother and what is best for the baby, it is hard to comes to terms with your hopes and dreams being shattered. Hope is something that families looking to adopt develop the ability to master. The ability to optimistically will something to come to fruition that you have no control over. However, when the fruits don’t come to fruition, that ability to continue to hope can truly... Read more…

December 20, 2012

After the Connection: Working with an Expectant Mother, Part Two

In my last article, I discussed some ways you can prepare yourself emotionally for the first meeting with an expectant mom considering adoption. This article will focus on practical issues you’ll want to think about and be prepared to discuss at the actual meeting. It is important to remember that although this is just an initial meeting, the expectations you have (as well as those of the of expectant parents) will help to determine the viability of a... Read more…

October 18, 2012

After the Connection: Working with an Expectant Mother, Part One

Now that your profile has been selected by an expectant mother considering adoption, I’m certain you’re feeling anxious, excited, and nervous all at once. Your thoughts and emotions are all going in a million different directions and you’ve probably put an immense amount of pressure on yourself before the actual first contact, whether on the phone or in person. While I’m not an adoptive parent and haven’t been in your... Read more…