I have always wanted to be a mom. I dated a little bit in college and then off and on in my 20's and early 30's. Nothing ever turned serious or felt right. In 2016, I went on a terrible date with a guy I matched with through online dating. I think it was his pointy snakeskin shoes that were the nail in the coffin for me. After that date, I went home, and thought very seriously about how I wanted my life to go.
I quickly realized that while I could live without a marriage/relationship, I could not bear the thought of never being a parent. Within a week, I started the adoption process, completed my home study 3 months later, and brought my daughter home 11 months after that.
Parenting is hard, like the hardest thing I've ever done. But when I have a minute to sit back and reflect, I cannot imagine doing anything else with my life.
Watching my daughter grow and learn and evolve into a unique little person has been the greatest privilege of my life.
I want to make sure I give my daughter stability and surround her with people who love her just as much as I do, and I think so far I'm succeeding with that.
We live in the Cleveland/Akron area in a cozy little house. Our neighborhood is solidly middle class, we have nice neighbors and live on a cul-de-sac, so there's not a lot of traffic and it's quiet. I have a fenced in backyard, a big deck, and we just hung up a really cool swing from one of our trees...and we have sooo many trees!
People make a home a home more than the actual structure does. There's just two of us that live in our house, but our family and friends are our home too. Making memories with them is one of my greatest priorities as a mom because I never want my daughter to question how many people love her. I think she feels safe and "home" with our whole family.
Our community and the surrounding area offer lots of opportunities to get out and take advantage of what they have to offer. We try to get to as many festivals and events as we can and we've created some really awesome family traditions by doing this.
I don't have a partner, but I think one of the things that makes me a good friend, co-worker, and sister is that I genuinely care enough to invest time into other people to help them be the best they can be. I want the people I am around to feel appreciated and important.
I think the same can be applied to me as a parent. I do the best I can to make sure my daughter knows she is worthy of my time, my love, and my respect for her as a person.
I feel like my daughter and I share a unique relationship since I'm her only parent. Sometimes not navigating a relationship/marriage while raising kids is a good thing as there's no adult-adult conflict in our home. I take decisions I make for her and us as a family very seriously because I know that it's all up to me.
My daughter and I both have so much love to give to a new little family member, and I know he or she would be cherished.