Debbie & Ted

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Our Story

We met 10 years ago at a trivia night in Manhattan and have been together ever since.
We love games, so it’s fitting that we met there. Ted saw Debbie across the room and came over to introduce himself. He traded with someone in order to sneak onto Debbie’s team. The rest is history – we hit it off and things just took off from there. We are very whimsical and funny when we are together. We are very responsible people, yet we don’t take life too seriously. We find joy in the everyday, mundane parts of life and we take time every day to express gratitude. We hope to pass along our joy in life to your child should you choose us to be adoptive parents.

Debbie and I have interests that cover a wide range of topics. We hope to share our passions and interests with your child so that he or she can discover what their talents and passions are. If your child’s talents and interests are different than ours, we want to learn as much about them as possible and encourage him or her to explore them.

Family is very important to us, and some of the most important time we spend with them is during various holidays.

Thanksgiving is a big holiday in our family. We are a very close family, and we usually gather from near and far at the home of Debbie’s cousin in New Jersey. There are a lot of cousins, as Debbie’s grandfather grew up on a dairy farm in New Jersey and had a lot of brothers and sisters. The cousins (or before them, their parents) have hosted a Thanksgiving like this for 40 years! Everyone brings foods (Ted bakes pumpkin pie!) and we set up lots of card tables for eating. There is a football game outside in the front yard, where the “oldtimers” play against the younger folk. There is usually a contingent of fans/ cheerleaders too. It doesn’t matter how cold it is or if there is a little snow: we are dedicated. Ted plays ball and Debbie cheers. Grandma Sharon loves her time with the grandchildren. Children are engaged throughout the day with crafts and pets and more. We can’t wait to add your child to this incredible celebration. It is quite magical, and is a highlight of the year.

If the kids aren’t cheering on the football players or playing ball, there are always arts and crafts tables where they can make macaroni necklaces or color. Sometime in the afternoon we all squeeze in for a group photo.

To complete the holiday extravaganza, we also go to visit Ted’s family to have a second Thanksgiving the next day. Ted’s sister, Viv, lives near Debbie’s cousins in New Jersey with her husband, David, and twin boys, Adam and Leo. Grandma Helene and Grandpa Alex live close by in Pennsylvania. We play games in the playroom – like MadLibs or playing with remote control racecars. Outside, we play soccer or basketball. We are very silly over the meal. Adam and Leo usually have some kind of mischief up their sleeves and like to play jokes on Grandma and Grandpa. They love getting their dessert, too, and showing off their knowledge of maps and Dungeons and Dragons.

The last couple of years, with the pandemic, we have made our own turkey, stuffing and pumpkin pie – Ted really loves to cook and bake and is always cooking up a storm in the kitchen. We also saw our family on video. People dialed in from all over for the big get together that is Debbie’s family and there was a lot of joking about people forgetting to turn off the mute button. Everyone was very grateful for all of the good things in their lives.

Ted’s family Zoom was very fun too – we played Scattergories and Pictionary, while trying to figure out how to undo all of the silly Zoom filters Adam and Leo managed to put up.

HALLOWEEN Every year, our block closes for a Halloween block party and every house tries its best to have the spookiest decorations – there are spider webs at each set of steps, coffins, huge spiders and lots of ghosts hanging from the webs. Pumpkins are everywhere. The neighborhood kids all get dressed up for trick or treat. We have a sheep costume and a set of morph suits - but we love giving out treats. Growing up, it was Debbie’s favorite day and she sometimes used to dress up very creatively, using a metal colander for a crown when she was a princess, for instance. (Or not so creatively, using a white sheet to be a ghost outfit.)

We plan to have elaborate Halloweens in the tradition of Debbie’s grandmother who also loved the holiday and would dress up like a scary witch each year. We can’t wait to have a child to share in these fun activities. Debbie is already imagining costumes for a little boy or girl!

EASTER We usually spend time each Spring with Debbie’s stepmother, Rosalyn, her step-aunt, also named Debbie, and their nieces and nephews and great nieces and great nephews. There are so many of us that we have to use a huge community room in the apartment building in Maryland where Aunt Debbie and Rosalyn now live. Rosalyn and Debbie have been known to take their grandchildren or great-nieces and nephews to the aquarium, and to museums, too. Debbie’s father loved the holidays at this time of year. Sadly, he left us too soon. But we are still close to Ros and Debbie and talk at least once a week.

CHRISTMAS We get together with our nieces and nephews and godchildren for the holidays. We also gather with Ted’s family at his sister’s each December, and are usually joined by his uncle Gabe, aunt Cindy and cousin Marina. We do a Secret Santa thing where we each pick a person’s name in advance, and we have to get gifts that are thoughtful but inexpensive. One year, Debbie got a pair of pink pig mittens that she still wears. The kids always get other gifts, too – books, toys – and we all ooh and aah as they open the gifts. The real gift, of course, is just being together. We sing songs and eat homemade cookies and pie (Ted’s lemon cake is always a hit). It is a lot of fun to see everyone and everyone is in good cheer.

We all love good stories and jokes. (In fact, Ted’s sister and father have each written books and always have a good tale. Sometimes, we make up a story by each adding a few words as we go around the table. “I Spy” is also a favorite game.)

OUR FRIENDS SAY THIS ABOUT US:
“They always seem to work as a team and their calmness seems to rub off on any kid around them.”

"They are both warm and kind with a sense of whimsy than enchants my kids.”

“They love to play games with my kids and treat them with respect and kindness.”

“They place great importance on education and always ask about their grades and music lessons.”

“Ted and Debbie are compassionate and engaging friends.”

HOW WE PLAN TO RAISE A FAMILY
We promise that your child will always know their entire life story, beginning with you and your selfless love for them.

We hope to raise a child surrounded with unconditional love and support as they head out into the world. We will treat this child with respect and kindness, and we will always be good role models.

WE ARE GRATEFUL TO YOU
We hope this has helped you to learn about us and the kind of life we would be honored to offer your child. We would be thrilled to learn more about you and your dreams and aspirations for your child. Whatever decision you make, we wish you peace and comfort.

Our Home

photo of adoptive family's home We live in New York City near Central Park, with lots of playgrounds and good schools. We love our neighborhood and have a K-12 school right next door.
There is also a kickball court nearby. More importantly, there are lots of young families, so a child will have lots of kids their own age to play with!

HOW WE PLAN TO RAISE A FAMILY

We promise that your child will always know their entire life story, beginning with you and your selfless love for them.

We promise to share our love of education and curiosity about the world, especially our love of books.

We will provide an environment of love, safety and support that will allow your child to thrive.

We hope to raise a child surrounded with unconditional love and support as they head out into the world. We will treat our child with respect and kindness, take an interest in their activities and opinions, and we will always be good role models.

Probably the most important things we would nurture would be confidence to try new things, curiosity, creativity and the love of reading.

Debbie is also eager to pass on her flute skills and love of painting, while Ted looks forward to involving a child in his kitchen science experiments (cooking) and share his love of the birds and animals in Central Park.

Also, and possibly most importantly, we hope to raise a child surrounded with lots of good friends. We live in a child-friendly neighborhood with many playgrounds, so your child will get to spend lots of time playing with and learning from the many other children growing up in our neighborhood.

We both think that sports and other physical activities are great for any child. What form that takes will depend a lot on what the child enjoys, but whether it’s basketball or ballet, soccer or swing dancing, we think it’s vital that he or she spend a lot of time running around with his or her friends doing some kind of physical activity.

Our parents can’t wait to for us to have a child for them to spoil.

WE ARE GRATEFUL TO YOU

We hope this has helped you to learn about us and the kind of life we would be honored to offer your child. We would be thrilled to learn more about you and your dreams and aspirations for your child.

Whatever decision you make, we wish you peace and comfort.

Debbie

adoptive family photo - Debbie DEBBIE’S STRENGTHS (by Ted)
Debbie loves children passionately and is endlessly creative, able to make up a steady stream of songs and stories that endear her to our nieces and nephews and our friends’ children, and she loves playing with them. I can’t wait for her to be a mom so that she can share these qualities with your child. Between that, and the practical experience she gained helping to raise her younger brothers, there’s a good reason why her friends call her “the Baby Whisperer.” She loves music, art, children’s movies and board games. She is also the warmest and most empathetic person I know.

DEBBIE NOW (written by Debbie)

People tell me I am down to earth and a good listener. I really love children and am so excited to become a mom. I’m a journalist and I edit news stories about TV stars or singers. Sometimes I work on related issues too, like how deafness is represented on TV or in movies, or a cultural trend about American Sign Language or social media. I recently edited articles on the movies “Encanto” and “Luca.”

Growing up, I (Debbie) loved music and thought I’d be a musician. I also kept diaries and wrote about my family and friends, and I wrote some stories and poems. So I turned to journalism because of my love for writing. I found a mix of my two loves as I work on so many music articles currently, too. I love exploring world music like Moroccan rap music or songs from West Africa or in Spanish, or listening to artists like Lizzo.

I still indulge my childhood love of dancing, even if just dancing around the house, and I dabble in art projects like watercolors, coloring and collaging. I am so excited at the idea of finger painting and more with a little one!

OUR FRIENDS SAY THIS ABOUT US:
“They always seem to work as a team and their calmness seems to rub off on any kid around them.”

"They are both warm and kind with a sense of whimsy than enchants my kids.”

“They love to play games with my kids and treat them with respect and kindness.”

“They place great importance on education and always ask about their grades and music lessons.”

“Ted and Debbie are compassionate and engaging friends.”

BEFORE WE BECAME WE

Debbie: I grew up in Silver Spring, Maryland.

My mother, Sharon, was a nurse and my father, Eugene, was a computer scientist. They divorced and my mom remarried, and my stepfather, Isaac, was a French teacher. (We spoke French at home and Isaac would make a lot of food from Egypt, where he was born and raised.) My father remarried, too, to Rosalyn, and she was also very warm and loving.

Growing up, I (Debbie) spent many weekends with my father and Rosalyn, going to my brothers’ sporting events, or to Orioles baseball games or Capitals hockey games, and to the many museums in Washington. (My father’s favorite was Air and Space so we learned a lot about astronauts.)

My grandparents were a big part of our lives too and we saw them almost every day as they picked us up from school or took us to flea markets very early in the mornings on some weekends. My mom, who is artsy, encouraged my creativity as I explored ballet and modern dance, as well as fashion (I used to sew my own clothes). Our parents can’t wait to for us to have a child for them to spoil.

Ted

adoptive family photo - Ted TED’S STRENGTHS (written by Debbie)

Ted is warm and caring and will make a great father. He emanates a sense of calm and welcoming that kids pick up on—they are quick to gravitate to him at gatherings. I love that he is a glass-half-full optimist. What stood out for me when we met was his sense of humor, and we have a life full of laughter. He is devoted to family, and he enjoys consistent, meaningful family time.

Ted has traveled around the world, and he has an entirely different perspective from me that leads me to consider situations differently. I can already see how great this will be for a child who is growing and exploring, and how it will nurture curiosity.

He loves being a lawyer and using his skills to help people. Ted also has a love of sports that is contagious. I know he’ll love sharing this passion with a child by going to games and playing frisbee and soccer with his child in the park. He is a joy to be around when things are great, and he is steadfast when things aren't going perfectly. Plus, he loves to cook and he makes amazing chocolate chip cookies. He is great Dad material.

TED NOW (written by Ted)
I always knew that I wanted to follow in my father’s footsteps and become a lawyer, and was lucky enough to make that dream come true as I now practice law in NYC. I find that it is a good way to help people. In addition, I like trivia contests, crossword puzzles and books, especially about history. I also watch a lot of sports, especially football (go Bills and Giants) and soccer. In addition, I’ve developed a love of cooking over the years- Debbie swears by my quiches, but I think my best dishes tend to be pastas.

BEFORE WE BECAME WE

Ted: I grew up in Rochester, New York. My mother, Helene, had her own business designing training programs for companies and my father, Alex, was a lawyer. More importantly, they created a warm and loving home for my sister, Viv, and myself, with a great emphasis on education and a never-ending supply of smiles and laughter, virtues that I hope to pass on to a child. It is also because of them that I grew up as a huge fan of sports, especially football and soccer, and love cheering on the Bills and NYCFC (soccer team). My Uncle Gabe and Aunt Cindy were also a big part of our lives.

Thank You for Visiting Our Adoption Profile

We want to thank you for considering us as adoptive parents for your child.

We truly appreciate your kindness and strength and look forward to hearing from you.

Sincerely,

Debbie & Ted

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