Christen & Heather (and Freya)

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Christen & Heather (and Freya)

"We loved you before we even knew you, even when there was just a hope for you, we loved you."

Nice to meet you! We're Heather and Christen, two moms to our beautiful daughter Freya and 3 fur babies Missy, Lily and Oliver Winston.

Thank you for taking the time to get to know us, as we look forward to meeting you more than you know. After being together for a decade and married for 5, we're looking to expand our family with two more tiny feet to fill our hearts and our home, as we've always planned. Not only can we not wait to be second time Moms, but Freya can't wait to be a big sister!

As a family we're always making memories while cooking/ dancing in the kitchen to our favorite music, owning our own businesses gives us the flexibility to be home while raising our family, as well as to travel all over the world at our leisure, and as mother's we devote our lives to loving every child we're blessed to call our own.

Our promise as adoptive parents, is to give your child the tools of communication, emotional support, and learning through play, to raise well rounded and genuine little humans to be the be best versions of themselves.

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Who We Are

10 years ago fate brought us to physically walk right into each other and the rest is 3 dogs, a beautiful home, an amazing toddler and now the dream of expanding our family through adoption.

From the moment we met we just clicked, we were drawn to each other and we've been laughing ever since. Life is worth living because we fit perfectly in the places the other lacks, and as one we are whole.

Our life together is everything we could've dreamt of, and more because we believe in one another. We push each other to be the best versions of ourselves and we love each other more each day. When we talk we actually listen, we work through hard times as one not separately and we live up to the vows we promised each other every day.

Family is the most important thing to both of us. Not just our immediate family but our blended family of heathers and mine that brought a MASSIVE group of people together through love. Holidays are our favorite, our home is always decorated no matter what holiday and the door is always open to our chosen family and the house always smells like italian food.

Summers are spent in our pool, bbqing with the family every weekend - Winters are snuggled up on the couch, and playing in the snow -- Autumn we're at the pumpkin patch and baking apple pies --and the Spring is for planting veggies in the garden and going on easter egg hunts with all of our best friends and their families.

Love and Support from our family have been the two main reasons why our love has had the opportunity to thrive the way it does. So our job is love our child and every child we are blessed to call ours as unconditionally as we have been loved.

Adoption Diary

Q and A: Will the baby(ies) know they’re adopted?

ABSOLUTELY THEY WILL!
and it will be honored on their adoption anniversary (Gotcha Day!) just like their birthday will be each year!

Fun Fact: We even do this with our daughter Freya because Heather technically had to adopt her because she is my biological child with a 3rd party donor!

We will honor all of our children and their stories as each person is unique. As parents we don’t want to teach “perfect” to what society thinks is a family or even a person in general should be. Teaching that not always conforming and being “different” from the cookie cutter molds are what make life beautiful.

So here are some things we’ll be doing to honor the incredible sacrifice of our expectant mama, but also the story of how the baby came to us!

1. So one thing we actually want to ask from our expectant mama, is for her to build a photo album or scrap book for the baby, for us to bring out each year to start their first tradition.

2. From the very beginning of their lives we’ll be reading age appropriate literature on adoption to teach that it’s a beautiful journey, and one that they can connect with!

3. As adoptive parents we’ll also be documenting every part of our journey as we did for Freya, so the baby has video/ journaling to look at as they grow and to have when they’re older for their children!

Heather and I feel that the knowledge of how the baby came to us as they grow will only help them to become the best versions of themselves. We would never want to blind side them and not tell them or not answer questions or make it an uncomfortable conversation. We promise to be open with our child at all age appropriate levels.

We hope that this entry helped any expectant mother get to know us a little more and to have at least one of the many questions you may have about our family answered!

- Christen

Q & A’s about Us!

While going through this journey we know our vulnerability will only help in the first steps of getting to know one another!

To the expectant mamas: The placement of your child is the most important decision you will make and we don’t take your experience likely, so this diary entry is to help you understand who we are, more in depth as a family, and the morals/values we are passing down to freya and any baby that comes to us.

Kind of a Q & A about us :) and the answers we would want to know making the incredible decision you might be making in choosing us to place your child with- so each week we’ll be posting an entry with a different Question and our honest answers

let’s get started!


Q: Is it difficult being a same-sex family? How would you integrate my child into your family unit ?:

A: The answer is simple, we are just like every other family in the cul de sac. Just two incredible women raising children to know that blended families are just as real, special and important. We live in an incredibly progressive part of New York as to make sure we give our children the world. Freya knows we are Mommy and Mama. She knows Mama goes to work and waits by the door everyday for her return and Mommy stays home with her learning ABC’s, numbers, and currently the life cycle of the butterfly. 10 Butterflies have just hatched and we’ll be setting them free in a few days!

Most importantly she knows she is loved endlessly. As will any baby we are blessed to raise.

Being LGBTQ isn’t just waiving a rainbow flag, it’s what has molded us into the strong women we are today. It means we fight for what we believe in and thats L O V E. love. Even going through the process of starting a family as a same sex couple, it has honestly taught both heather and myself that being humble and thankful for each day we have together is the most important thing. That being inclusive to family units and teaching children inclusivity in the home only leads to success. That word means so much more than just same sex families. It’s the child whose grandmother raises them, or the child with a single mom in the class, and the amazing mamas and daddies out their living life surrounded by dance recitals, playdates and pre-school, just as we are.

As a family we want to stress that we have nothing but COMPLETE familial and peer support so all we do together is create lifelong memories. There would never be a day at home where we would lie to your child about who their parents are, and if there ever were instances of homophobia because that’s of course I’m sure in the back of your head too. We would absolutely face them accordingly, i can promise you that. You now have not one but TWO mama bears!!

As far as integration, Your child is our child from the second YOU make that decision. We have had a child and lost a child, so we don’t ever take one moment in this life for granted. With that said, your child would come home with us to a beautiful nursery that will be their bedroom growing up and meet a HUGE family with nothing but endless love waiting for them. Especially, from their big sister will be their biggest fan.

We want you to know we talk about the hard stuff, so if you have any further questions on this, we’re here to talk and work out anything together.

Please feel free to reach out to us in any way, we look forward to hearing from you <3

Christen & Heather

Thank You for Visiting Our Adoption Profile

We want to thank you for considering us as adoptive parents for your child.

We truly appreciate your kindness and strength and look forward to hearing from you.

Sincerely,

Christen & Heather (and Freya)

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