How we met and our wedding
We’ve been a couple for fourteen years and married for almost nine - the time has flown by, but our love gets deeper with each year. We met at Oxford University, in England, where Peter was studying Russian and German and Tyler was studying for a Masters degree in Chinese Studies. We fell for each other super quickly, and couldn’t get enough time together right from the start.
After we’d been together for five years, we were ready to take the next step and get married. We both felt so sure that marriage was an important way to mark our commitment and our love. We got married in 2013 in a small, but beautiful and emotional, ceremony at City Hall in New York with our families.
We have a really loving and equal relationship and have shared so many life experiences together. Our personalities complement each other really well, we share the same silly sense of humor and have so many shared interests and attitudes. It all makes for a very harmonious relationship and we feel very thankful to have found each other.
We are so looking forward to sharing our deep love and happy, stable home with a child. We know that becoming fathers is more important than anything else we could do or achieve in our lives.
Best of both worlds – New York City and Connecticut country home
We live in a safe, lively, beautiful neighborhood in New York City. We are looking forward to bringing up a child in one of the most exciting and diverse cities in the world. Our neighborhood and New York City has so many wonderful and exciting things to offer a child and we’d be so thrilled to make sure a child gets to take advantage of all the city has to offer, while growing up in a wonderful home.
Although we live right in the center of all that NYC has to offer, our street is quiet, with lots of trees and beautiful old buildings. We own our New York City home. It’s spacious and just waiting for a child to grow up in. We have a private roof deck, where we enjoy hanging out in the sun and doing a little flower gardening right in the middle of the city. You can even see the Empire State Building if you crane your neck just right! We’re lucky to have a great space to bring a child into - our home is bright and open and our neighbors are really friendly and relaxed.
The schools in our neighborhood are fantastic. We live a block from a great park with slides and swings - it’s always packed with kids. There’s a wonderful bookstore down the block with a great kids book section, and we’re just a few minutes’ walk away from the High Line Park and the beautiful Hudson River. There are restaurants from every part of the world on our doorstep, and exciting theater, live music, and fun museums (and the Harry Potter experience!)
We also own a home in rural Connecticut, a place we love going on weekends and holidays. We both grew up in the country and having a place to enjoy time outdoors is something we really value. Our place is in a beautiful woodland setting - it would be such a fun place for a child to play and explore.
When we’re in the country, we love spending as much time outside as possible, whether eating dinner on the porch or going on bike rides and hikes, including on a section of the Appalachian Trail that runs right near the house. We are excited to give a child a chance to experience life outside NYC and to enjoy time in a wonderful small town setting, with great local swimming holes and a friendly, comfortable vibe.
Activities we love
We love getting out into the world, whether visiting museums or parks in the city, or going to shows and movies or to favorite restaurants. When we’re in the country, we love spending weekend mornings at the farmers market and checking out local festivals in the towns around our place in Connecticut. We look forward to taking a little one on our adventures in the city and country.
We have always loved to travel and are looking forward to new journeys with a child. We think that traveling to new places in the U.S. and around the world is a wonderful and educational way to experience different ways of life and to broaden our perspectives. And of course travel is also a lot of fun, too! We both grew up going to the beach every year (rain or shine in Peter’s case!) and it’s a tradition we want to continue as parents ourselves.
We also enjoy our time being at home. We love to cook all sorts of food - English classics, Indian curries, lots of Chinese, Thai and Mexican and have even been known to spend a long weekend afternoon preparing an Ethiopian feast. Tyler also loves to bake bread on the weekends. We really look forward to teaching a little one to cook along with us.
We love getting into a good book and also enjoy listening to audiobooks in the car. And of course, who can resist a good TV series? During the pandemic, we watched a lot of Schitt’s Creek, The Great British Baking Show, and The Sopranos.
We have an amazing group of friends in the city and love getting together to catch up and hang out. Almost all of our close friends have kids, and our time together is usually planned around nap schedules! We are just as likely to be drawing with chalk on the stoop or helping to construct a complicated wooden train set than we are to be catching up with the adults, but we have loved getting the chance to be a part of our friends’ kids lives.
We are excited to have this bigger community of parents who can give advice and support and with whom it will be really easy to get together for playdates, birthdays and weekend activities.
Our favorite holidays
Christmas is the most important holiday in our families, and we really look forward to it every year. We can’t wait to share that sense of excitement and anticipation with a child.
The traditions in Peter’s family included going out to pick a tree and coming home to decorate and bake while listening to carols on the radio. After putting Peter and his brother to bed, his parents would transform the house with homemade paperchains strung from the ceiling, and freshly cut holly and ivy boughs from the hedgerows surrounding the fields outside. When spending Christmas in England, we still hang paperchains and pick holly and ivy on Christmas Eve… all that’s missing is a little one to surprise in the morning!
Tyler’s family always spent Christmas Eve with his grandma, sharing a festive meal after church, before returning home to read Christmas stories by the fire. Christmas morning was a joy - sharing gifts, eating his mom’s homemade cinnamon rolls, and usually going sledding in the afternoon after a festive meal with aunts, uncles and cousins.
Christmas is still our favorite time of year. We almost always spend the holidays with at least one set of grandparents, and we’ve continued some of our family traditions while creating new ones too. If we’re not traveling, we go to a local Christmas tree farm to pick out our tree, and decorate it with ornaments we’ve collected on our travels and from our parents and grandparents too, along with lights, popcorn chains and candy canes.
We love carols and Christmas music, and have that playing as we trim the tree and bake festive treats. Inspired by Peter’s mom, Tyler always makes a traditional English pudding or Christmas cake. Peter is perfecting his mince pie recipe!
Over the days leading up to Christmas, we wrap up gifts and usually write sweet or silly messages to read out before opening. We always hang stockings on Christmas Eve and would be so excited to create the magic of an overnight visit from Santa Claus for a child… as a child, Tyler kept his little sister believing in Santa Claus a few years longer than you might expect!
Just as we did as kids, we’d have a little one leave out cookies and milk on Christmas Eve, and carrots for the reindeer too. On Christmas morning, we have breakfast with family and take turns selecting presents for others to open as we sit around the fire. It’s always a cozy day, spent playing games by the fire while having egg nog or hot chocolate, interrupted only by the flurry of cooking for a big evening meal with everyone together.
A close second favorite holiday for Tyler as a child was Thanksgiving. Although Peter didn’t celebrate this holiday in England, he has also come to love this special time of year to focus on gratitude and family. We usually celebrate Thanksgiving with Tyler’s sister Jenny and boyfriend Henderson, and sometimes with Tyler’s mom or extended family.
We make a roast dinner and Peter sometimes makes traditional English Yorkshire pudding. We always make homemade cranberry sauce and Tyler’s dad’s homemade stuffing recipe. We would love to celebrate Thanksgiving with kids running around, anticipating the meal together. It may be cold outside but it's always a warm and wonderful time of year at our house.
We are also excited to incorporate ideas and traditions that might relate to a child’s heritage. We would love to hear more about your traditions and how you celebrate festive occasions to include something of that in our family traditions. And of course, we are looking forward to creating new family traditions with a child!
Tyler is a lawyer working in finance. Law is a great profession and he loves the interesting projects he gets to work on all around the world. He’s always felt so sure that becoming a very involved and doting father was something he wanted and was meant to be.
Tyler grew up in rural Eastern Washington State, in a house surrounded by apple orchards. Tyler’s mom, Rita, is a retired schoolteacher - she worked with special needs children for many years. She loves taking road trips, criss-crossing the West in her little RV with her partner Darrell and her sweet dog, Smokey. Darrell is an adoptive father himself and is especially supportive of our decision to adopt.
Tyler’s dad, Ken, is a retired P.E. teacher and coach. He is an avid outdoorsman and loves to fish and care for his friend’s horses. Tyler’s ancestry is primarily German, Irish and English, but with some Czech and French, as well.
Tyler’s sister Jenny lives in New York City, where she works as a nurse at a hospital in Manhattan. She lives with her boyfriend Henderson and their dog, a shiba inu named Yuki. We often get together for family dinners, barbecues, trips to the park and walks around the city. Jenny’s boyfriend Henderson has three adopted brothers, and we have been grateful to learn more about his experience as an adoptive brother.
We have talked to Jenny about having a child for many years and she is incredibly excited to be part of the child’s life. She is caring and outgoing and makes friends with people everywhere she goes. She is beloved by her patients and coworkers.
We know that she will be an incredible aunt, but more than that, she will be an amazing friend, advisor and advocate for the child. Our lives are so enriched by her, and we know that it will be the same for a child. She is considering having children of her own, and we would be so excited for a child to have cousins nearby!
Tyler has aunts, uncles and cousins in New York and on the west coast.
Peter on Tyler
I feel so lucky to have met Tyler and to have had him as a loving presence in my life for the past 14 years. Throughout every moment I’ve been blessed to be with someone who is thoughtful, caring, and a great listener. He always has good, practical advice and is always my biggest supporter. He has a great sense of humor and never thinks of himself as better than anyone else. I couldn’t ask for a more wonderful and well-suited partner, and know that he will make the most loving, incredible father.
Peter is an editor at a publishing company and is passionate about books and writers. He is constantly bringing home new books and would be excited to share his love for reading with a child. When we spend time with our friends' children, he almost always ends up reading them a book. Peter has always dreamed about becoming a dad.
Peter grew up in a picturesque little village in southwest England surrounded by rolling green fields. He went to a music school and still loves playing the piano. Peter’s dad, James, is a retired doctor, and of mixed Northern Irish and English heritage. He loves to play golf and cook. His mother, Pritam, was born in Malaysia to Indian Punjabi parents. She does volunteer work with elderly people and is an amazing gardener.
Both of Peter’s parents are now retired, in good health, and very excited about becoming grandparents. We Skype with them every week to catch up between their visits to New York and our trips to England.
Peter’s brother, William, lives in London where he works at an accounting firm. He loves all things geeky, from comic books to cult films to computer games, and is one of the most switched-on people to great new TV and books. He doesn’t have children (yet!), and he will make a wonderful uncle.
Peter has aunts, uncles and cousins around the U.S. and also in the UK and Asia. He feels very lucky to have family all around the world.
A recent cause for celebration is that in 2020, Peter became a U.S. citizen (although he remains charmingly British in all other ways!).
Tyler on Peter
From the very first moment I met Peter, I felt that he was something rare and different - kind, brilliant (he speaks 5 languages!), handsome, thoughtful, serious in his way but also fun and funny. He has a positive energy and is sweet and sensitive. He is incredibly giving and caring, great at planning ahead, and always thinking about what would be best for our family. I know he will be an incredible dad, and I am so excited to share the journey of parenthood with him.