We both share a deep love of education and public service. We met in graduate school at Princeton University in 2005 while studying international relations. Shortly thereafter, we both started working for the federal government - Danielle at the White House under President Obama, and Victor for the State Department as a diplomat.
We were married in 2008. In 2013, Danielle gave birth to Josephine, and we relocated from Washington, D.C. to the island of Cyprus, where Victor worked at the U.S. Embassy. We loved spending time together abroad.
In 2015, we moved back to the United States to Colorado and bought a home near Denver, where we currently live. Danielle switched from government to private law for a major tech company. Victor went to graduate school again, and in 2021, Victor finished his doctorate and started working as a researcher.
HOME: We live in a quiet neighborhood near Denver, Colorado that is close walking distance to some great playgrounds and recreation centers.
CHILDCARE: Danielle’s employer provides 5 months of paid parental leave, so she would wait at least that long before returning to work. Vic’s work is virtual because he is an academic researcher, and he does all his work from the comfort of his home office. In the short term, Vic will also be able to set his schedule as needed to care for our child. Danielle is a manager with a very flexible work schedule, so can easily ensure she has plenty of time to bond with our child. In addition, Danielle’s parents and sister live nearby, and her parents are available to provide loving childcare throughout the child’s early years. We anticipate that professional childcare will not be needed until the child is at least 1 year old.
FAITH: We’d like our children to understand that they are children of God and are loved and valued regardless of what they choose to do with their lives. We believe that a life of continuous learning from and love for others is the key to leading a meaningful life.
(1) We will define “open adoption” together with you in advance. We hope for at least 1 visit in person per year, in addition to sharing ongoing photos every month electronically.
(2) We will love our child no matter what they do.
(3) We will nurture the interests and passions of our child, and provide them with the best education possible.
(4) We will expose our child to new ideas, fun experiences, and eye-opening opportunities.
(5) We will instill in our child a sense of their culture, history and background, and they will always know how important you are to their life.
Growing up in a military family with a lot of moving from state-to-state and country-to-country, the one constant Danielle had was her family: her sister, brother, mom and dad.
Danielle’s close-nit family placed a strong emphasis on education, and she carries that ethos into the family. Danielle loves to learn, and has taught herself everything from coding to home improvement. From crocheting blankets, to photography, birdwatching, and even building a robot cat - there’s no project too hard for Danielle and her books.
Danielle’s strong self-confidence has made her a great role model to other Black women in two male-dominated fields: technology and law. People don’t know that one of the few tech company lawyers with an actual electrical engineering technical degree is a Black woman. But as her hubby, I just bring this up in every conversation I can. I am so proud to be Danielle’s hubby.
Vic was raised in Detroit, Michigan by his mom and dad alongside his younger brother. Vic’s parents are pillars of the community, active in the AME Church, and very proud of their Black heritage. Where Vic grew up, it was normal to sing the Black National Anthem at official public events, to celebrate Kwanzaa, and to memorize historical and modern day Black inventors. To this day, he prioritizes Black-owned businesses and points out to our daughter what things she uses every day that were invented by Black innovators.
Vic’s Detroit family and friends are so close that they are always stopping by, and Vic’s dad always cooks for 10 for when a friend or family inevitably shows up for dinner. Vic has followed his dad’s tradition of being the main chef of our household, too.
My husband loves building community and is the heart of our family. He’s very active in local politics, and he’s involved with the PTA, always having coffee with the principal. Vic intentionally changed his career from Foreign Service Officer to professor, to focus more on being there for our family. He went back to school to get his PhD in the psychology of work; his niece and nephew now call him “Dr. Uncle Vic.”
Vic is the most thoughtful, loving, and genuine person I know, and I’m so happy to have him in my life.