Chris & Ashby

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Our Story

Ashby and I met in the most random of ways. We were both attending a flamenco concert of a very good friend of ours-Elena was my childhood best friend and Ashby and Elena were colleagues and then very good friends, so both of us were there to support her. We were standing in line right behind one another, but complete and utter strangers to one another at the time. Elena’s sister came to greet me and introduced me to Ashby while waiting in line. We always laugh because Ashby arrived with her overwhelming positivity and commented how excited she was to see the concert. I replied with my typical dry and sarcastic humor by saying, “Don’t get too excited. It is beginner flamenco.” She immediately broke out in laughter and I will tell you that we truly have been laughing ever since. We are very much yin and yang, which makes such a perfect compliment in our daily lives.

We decided to go out to dinner with all of Elena’s friends after the performance and truly only wanted to talk to one another. As the dinner ended, I told Ashby that I lived close by (which was a complete white lie) and that I was going to walk home hoping that she would decide to walk with me so we could have some more time getting to know one another. She accepted my invitation and told me that she too lived close by (another white lie) and as we walked thirty, forty and then fifty blocks, we both looked at each other and said, “You didn’t live close by either, did you”. We laughed at the fact that we both fell for each other’s little white lies and from that moment on, we hardly have spent any time apart.

We knew that this was something special and we made another date to meet a few days later and another and another one after that. We have been walking blocks and blocks ever since and we never seem to get tired of walking home together, so we decided to walk together for the rest of our lives.

Our Wedding
Ashby and I have always been extremely committed to one another and always knew that we would be together forever whether we were married or not, but we both felt very strongly about sharing our love with our family and friends. We decided to have two steps to our wedding day-one that was filled with friends and family at the beach exchanging hand written vows and one was at the city court house to make it all official.

At the time of our wedding, we had bought a beach house, so we had friends and family gather there for a fun and relaxing day playing in the pool and having a barbeque during the day and as the sun began to go down, we had a beautiful celebration at the ocean to commit our love to one another forever in marriage. We made our bouquets from flowers from the farm stand, we all had bare feet and we said our vows just after a quick rain shower that left the most beautiful rainbow above all of our family and friends. It was magical in every way and as it ended, we gathered in cars filled with friends and family, listened to great music and drove to our favorite restaurant to eat fish tacos on the beach. A few weeks later, we married at city hall and made it official even though we felt we had done that already.

We were eight months pregnant with our son Sawyer at the time, so wobbling over to city hall was quite an effort, but incredibly special as it had just become legal for us to marry just a few short months before. It was perfect in every way and we will never forget those two days for the rest of our lives-the rainbows, the bare feet, homemade flower arrangements, great music with the windows open, the fish tacos and friends and loved ones all around and the historic act of being legally recognized while pregnant. Simple and easy and perfect for us.

Chris's Thoughts on Ashby

Ashby is one of the most caring and generous people that I have ever met, which is what drew me to her immediately. She dedicates her life both personally and professionally to caring for others and the love that emanates from her is not only beautiful, but also contagious. She encourages you to be a better version of yourself and is patient and understanding even when you can’t always be that!
Ashby has the same thoughts and feelings about family that I do, which also made me realize that she was the absolute perfect person for me. She is fiercely devoted to her family and always makes them a priority in her life. She loves children and is her most playful and silly self around them.

She always wants to incorporate friends and family in our daily life, which fits in perfectly with my love of entertaining. She is always the life of the party while also being the best shoulder to cry on. When I think of words that would describe Ashby to a tee, it would be loving, beautiful, funny, driven, charismatic, generous, giving, intelligent, playful and loyal. After all of these years together, she is still the one person in the room that I always want to talk to and luckily, I get to do that each and every day.

Ashby's Thoughts on Chris

Chris is one of the most resilient, driven people I have ever met. She is gifted, intelligent, creative, and generous.
Chris was the most beautiful person when I met her, and still today, makes me proud to be with her. She is an AMAZING parent. She is 100% invested and committed to our family. Whether she is making the most amazing baked brie for friends or baking Valentine's Day cookies for the kids - she is the most fun and always up for an activity and challenge.
Chris is loyal, almost to a fault. She will always stick up for who and what she believes in - and is always the first to say "I'm sorry".


Chris is beautiful, loving, funny, talented, giving, and one of the best people I have ever known. She amazes people with her talent in photography, interior design, cooking, parenting, entertaining, (unfortunately, not dancing), and artistic ability.
She has a fire in her belly and a real purpose in this world. She has survived so many things and clearly is meant for something great. Due to this, she is a uniquely wonderful partner and the parent you could only hope for.

Our Home

photo of adoptive family's home We own our home in one of the most beautiful and charming Connecticut beach towns in the world. Our house was an old school house that was renovated to a modern home. We have lovingly filled it with cool pieces of vintage finds and new pieces from the store that Chris owns. It is on 2 acres of land surrounded by stonewalls and beautiful green grass. We live 2 miles from the beach and find ourselves there during every season of the year, but daily in the summer.

We also live a mile from a lake that we joined and it is an amazing place to spend summer afternoons with a splash pad, snack bar and kayaks on the lake. It is such a perfect place to grow up. We are extremely close with all of our neighbors and the kids all play together in their back yards. We all have play sets and swings and fun things to do, so the kids are in all of their glory.

We have become very close friends with the families of Sawyer’s school friends, so we now have a large group of family friends in the new place that we call home. We are so grateful for the open space and land so close to New York City, which is where we called home for so many years before moving here. There is never a shortage of things to do and explore and it truly is a community where kids have so much nature all around them.
Our holiday celebrations are some of the absolute best days of the year. Our son is showered with love and amazing gifts by his nine aunts and uncles and is surrounded by cousins and family celebrating every holiday. Christmas is one of our family's favorite holidays.

Ashby

adoptive family photo - Ashby How I Grew Up, By Ashby

Much of my childhood was playing outside all day long, with my brothers, Justin and R.T., and our friends. We spent a lot of time going snorkeling, taking family members to all the tourist spots, and running and playing in the surf and sun. We grew up in Pearl Harbor, Hawaii, and while we had enough bedrooms, my brothers and I used to choose to sleep in a single bed together on a screened in porch falling asleep to the warm breeze and listening to crickets' song.

We were a military family with a moderate income, and had the opportunity to move around periodically and experience new places. To this day, I think that moving around a lot as a young person helped to promote flexibility, confidence, and resilience in all of us. Our family was always laughing – playing games, engaging in new experiences, being creative, learning, and valuing quality family time. We always ate dinner together, attended family holidays and game nights.

I spent a good deal of my high school career performing in the theater department plays, musicals, and improv groups. Once I discovered acting, I planned to move to NYC to be an actress. I went to college in Virginia, majoring in Theater with an emphasis in Drama Therapy. My love of performing was equal to my love of psychology.

My parents instilled in me integrity, loyalty, and good work ethic. They always said, "If you say you're going to do it, do it"!

And to this day, I always keep my word. This is a quality I hope very much to instill in our children.

Ashby's Work

Ashby spent about 12 years in NYC as an actress, working in TV, Film, Theater, and Voice-overs. Her huge heart and strong desire to help people pushed her to pursue her Masters in Clinical Social Work to obtain her LMSW. While she worked in the corporate world, as well as numerous jobs in food and beverage to support her acting career, once she got her LMSW she moved directly into the helping profession.

Ashby worked with at-risk high school students at inner NYC schools, sexual assault and domestic violence survivors, marginalized communities, and LGBTQ young people. Over the years she has worked in substance abuse treatment and suicide prevention. She has her own very successful private therapy practice in NYC and CT. Three of the values she works and lives by are integrity, vulnerability, and leadership. Her aim is to create an atmosphere of connection and foster a culture in which people feel safe, seen, heard, and respected

Chris's Thoughts on Ashby

Ashby is one of the most caring and generous people that I have ever met, which is what drew me to her immediately. She dedicates her life both personally and professionally to caring for others and the love that emanates from her is not only beautiful, but also contagious. She encourages you to be a better version of yourself and is patient and understanding even when you can’t always be that!
Ashby has the same thoughts and feelings about family that I do, which also made me realize that she was the absolute perfect person for me. She is fiercely devoted to her family and always makes them a priority in her life. She loves children and is her most playful and silly self around them.

She always wants to incorporate friends and family in our daily life, which fits in perfectly with my love of entertaining. She is always the life of the party while also being the best shoulder to cry on. When I think of words that would describe Ashby to a tee, it would be loving, beautiful, funny, driven, charismatic, generous, giving, intelligent, playful and loyal. After all of these years together, she is still the one person in the room that I always want to talk to and luckily, I get to do that each and every day.

Chris

adoptive family photo - Chris In many ways, Ashby and I grew up with many similar family values and traditions. Both Ashby and I come from large families with military backgrounds. Both her father, Ryland and mine, Edward, were both officers in the Navy. I have four sisters Nancy, Megan, Maura, and Kathy and one brother named Kevin and sixteen nieces and nephews. Our daily lives were always crowded around a dinner table laughing and listening to music or playing sports in the back yard. Life was always full of laughter and activity in a house.

We were always very active and stimulated as kids growing up. I played many sports, was very involved in the theater, went to high school in Europe and speak French fluently. We went on many family vacations to the Caribbean and to Europe and to many sites across the US. My parents thought that it was extremely important to have yearly family vacations and we continue that tradition in our family now.
I had a wonderful childhood and was always taught to be honest, hard working and respectful of everyone around me, which I try and do each and every day.

Chris's Work

Chris is wonderfully creative, making her very successful in both the fashion industry and home design. She spent 15 years in the fashion industry-first as a fashion stylist and then as a fashion photographer. She has worked with some of the biggest names in the fashion industry and traveled all over the world for her work. She is currently shooting a personal project where she is shooting surfers all over the world.

After Sawyer was born, she wanted to travel less and decided to open a store. She has a retail store that sells high-end home decor items and is now one of the top interior designers in the area. She designs large scale homes both here and all over the tri state area and makes creativity her life’s passion and work.

Ashby's Thoughts on Chris

Chris is one of the most resilient, driven people I have ever met. She is gifted, intelligent, creative, and generous.
Chris was the most beautiful person when I met her, and still today, makes me proud to be with her. She is an AMAZING parent. She is 100% invested and committed to our family. Whether she is making the most amazing baked brie for friends or baking Valentine's Day cookies for the kids - she is the most fun and always up for an activity and challenge.
Chris is loyal, almost to a fault. She will always stick up for who and what she believes in - and is always the first to say "I'm sorry".


Chris is beautiful, loving, funny, talented, giving, and one of the best people I have ever known. She amazes people with her talent in photography, interior design, cooking, parenting, entertaining, (unfortunately, not dancing), and artistic ability.
She has a fire in her belly and a real purpose in this world. She has survived so many things and clearly is meant for something great. Due to this, she is a uniquely wonderful partner and the parent you could only hope for.

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Chris & Ashby

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