I've always dreamed of being a mom and can't thank you enough for considering me!
Hi, I’m Hilary!
Thank you so much for taking the time to learn about me. While this must be a difficult decision for you, I think your courage, your selflessness, and your love for your child are amazing. Your decision would also be the most generous and transformative gift for someone like me, who has always dreamed of being a mom and devoting my life to a child.
I hope that my words help you get to know me and envision the loving mom I would be to your child. I would love to learn more about you, talk about your hopes and goals for your child, and figure out how you and I can make them come true. If you do choose me, please know that I look forward to being by your side every step of the way, and that I will love your child unconditionally.
I absolutely love children and feel completely ready – emotionally, logistically and financially - to make your child the center of my universe.
I have lived in the same close-knit New Jersey town since I was seven years old, which means I have family and friends all around. They are an amazing support system and a constant source of joy, love, laughter. Many of my friends live within walking distance of me and nearly all of them have young kids, meaning that your child will be surrounded by friends and honorary aunts and uncles. From Christmas parties in the winter to summer barbecues, there is always something going on. I love to have people over for simple get-togethers, and to hang out on my friends’ porches with their young children when the weather is nice out.
My mom, Bev, is my best friend and will be an every day part of your child’s life if you so generously choose to entrust me! I’m so glad she lives close by in the house I grew up in, which is filled with happy memories of my childhood. She is amazing with children, in a way that is nearly impossible to describe with words but I will try. She allows children to be silly and serious by making them feel heard and smart. She always has your back and encourages all of us – kids and adults included -- to be ourselves and try new things. We talk on the phone every day, get together all the time, and enjoy family vacations together every summer. She is an amazing woman and role model, and a wonderful “Nana” to my nieces and nephews (Andrew, Kevin, Sky, and Quinn). I know she’ll be similarly incredible with your child. She’s up for anything, fun, kind, and thoughtful – my friends adore her!
My older brother, Todd, lives close too, and we enjoy spending time together. I am grateful to Todd and his wife Lisa for giving me three awesome nephews and an amazing niece (they blended their family when they got married – Todd had two sons, and Lisa had a son and a daughter). I’m so proud of Andrew, Kevin, Sky, and Quinn—they’re unique, independent, and loving. It’s been my pleasure to be their aunt and their cheerleader. I have proudly been with them through diapers, skinned knees, tears, laughter, baseball and football games, board games, sleepovers, movies, recitals, ping pong tournaments, and graduations. They are truly a joy in my life. My brother is an incredible dad, and he will be a wonderful uncle and role model for your child, too.
I’m very close with my extended family, too, and I have cousins, aunts, and uncles up and down the East Coast. Many of my cousins now have young kids. From the time I was a child until this day, we have had an annual summer gathering at one of our houses on the beach (usually in either North or South Carolina). It is so much fun – kids playing, dogs barking, my cousin and I playing our guitars, staying up too late, and more! – I can’t wait to share this with your child. My entire extended family is supportive of my adoption plan and ready to unconditionally embrace the newest addition.
Christmas is a really great holiday and time of the year for our family. On Christmas Eve, we attend a church service filled with Christmas carols and music. I was in the choir that sang at the service throughout middle school and high school, and since then we’ve all enjoyed singing along from the pews. After the service, we do Christmas Eve dinner together and then gather around the Christmas tree to read “’Twas the Night Before Christmas” and play games. Our tree is filled with homemade ornaments, including a reindeer my grandma made out of clothespins long before I was born, a stocking with my name on it that I made when I was three, and a giant Christmas tree my nephews made from their handprints. We love to remember the stories of all the ornaments when we decorate the tree, and each year we add a few special additions to our collection. Before we head to bed, we leave cookies and milk out for Santa (plus carrots for the reindeer, of course!).
On Christmas morning, we usually wake up early (it’s exciting!) and then race down the stairs to start opening presents. We go one-by-one so that everyone can enjoy every gift (my nephews were a little impatient about this when they were little, but now they love that we take our time). There are always at least a couple new family games under the tree, which we play throughout the afternoon before cooking a big turkey dinner.
My lifelong dream has been to become a mom. From the time I was a little girl, I hoped to adopt a baby. When the time was right for me to become a mom, I decided that I would try to adopt and get pregnant at the same time. Basically, I chose to let the universe tell me which path was the right one for me to become a mom. After a number of failed fertility treatments, it is clear that my dream from the time I was a little girl was the right one – I was always intended to create my family through adoption. I will be so grateful to you if you help this dream come true.
For a number of years I was dating a man and we talked about adopting a child together, but we broke up before we created a family together. I am not presently in a relationship. I’m open to meeting someone in the future who shares my love of family and would be wonderful to this child, but I know with all my heart that now is the time for me to become a mom. My top priority right now is becoming a mom, and being a mom and providing your child with the best life I can possibly give him or her will take precedence over anything else in the future. I’m fortunate to be at a place in my life where I can make that call. I’m an open book, so if you have any questions let me know. I’m happy to share whatever information would help you make your decision.
It’s hard for me to describe the depth of what my family means to me, or the level of support they provide. We genuinely love spending time together and we always support each other, no matter what. My entire family is ready and waiting to shower your child with love and welcome him or her to the family.