Ben and Jay

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Ben and Jay

New York married couple looking to adopt and grow our family

Hello! We are Ben and Jay. First and foremost, we want to thank you in advance for taking the time to read about us and considering us to be the adoptive parents of your child. We love children and should you choose us, we would make your child the center of our world.

We are humbled by your strength and bravery for considering an adoptive plan for your child. We know this is an important decision for you and want to provide you with as much information as possible about who we are so that you can make the best decision for your child.

We have always wanted a big family and hope to make that happen through adoption. We love the energy of kids running around our home and the love that it brings out of us. Right now our siblings do not have children, so our son Victor receives an abundance of attention from doting grandparents and aunts and uncles. We feel so lucky that Victor and a sibling will get all this special attention . Hopefully one day the children will have cousins to play and bond with too.

We plan to raise our children in a stable home with strong values and love. We both have generous leave policies from our employers. Ben plans to take at least one year off when a new child arrives and Jay will take four months off before returning to work.

Depending on the situation, Ben would return to work after one year but has a flexible schedule by design. Ben decided to return to being an assistant principal because a job became available two blocks from our home and would allow him to spend as much time as possible with our kids including all school holidays and the summer when we plan to make many happy memories.

If Ben returns to work he will have the help of his parents who live within a ten minute walk from our home. Ben’s parents will babysit and be a large and consistent part of our children’s lives.

Thank you for considering us to be the adoptive parents of your child. We would be happy to answer any questions you might have. We would love to learn about you and your dreams and aspirations for your child. Please feel free to call or text us at 800 243-1658. You may also email us as email@lovingcouplehopetoadopt.com


Sending love too.
Jay and Ben

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Who We Are

How we met
We have been together for over thirteen years, almost eight of which we have been married. Fate brought us together then as we hope it has brought us to you now.
We have been together for over thirteen years, almost eight of which we have been married. Fate brought us together then as we hope it has brought us to you now.

We met on a hot August night at a party of mutual friends where we both originally did not plan to go. Jay was finishing graduate school and had five final exams the next day. He was also welcoming his parents to New York for the first time the next day and was about to kick off a week of plans to show them all the sights. At the time of our meeting, Ben was singing professionally and had just returned to NY from a tour singing in cathedrals across small towns in England and had barely slept but said to himself, “Hey, maybe I’ll meet ‘Mr. Right’ tonight?!”, and rallied to the party.

We both said yes to the invitations at the last minute given everything that was going on. It was love at first sight – we both thought we would meet many people that evening, but saw each other right when we got to the party, spent the whole night talking and have been inseparable ever since.

That bond is the foundation of our family. Family is the most important thing to us – both the families we were born into as well as the family that we have created together.

Our families are all about children so Ben started his career in education as a teacher and is now an assistant principal in a public K-8 school in our neighborhood. He comes from a family of teachers. Ben’s mother (Esther), father (Howard), sister (Elena), and cousin (Erica) are all teachers. Jay also comes from a family of teachers. His mother (Mila), grandmother, aunts and cousins are teachers as well. As you read about our upbringing, lives, and how we celebrate holidays, you will learn how our lives revolve around family. In fact, when Ben discussed this potential adoption with his 98-year-old grandmother she said, “you have to do this because you have so much more love to give!”

Ben’s growing up
Ben grew up in New York City, about a 10 minute walk from where we live right now. He was born in a family of five as the youngest of three kids. He has a brother (Aaron), sister (Elena), mother (Esther) and father (Howard). Their household was very loving and loud. One of the reasons why it was so loud was not just all the sibling antics going on, but also the music. Ben has been singing since he could make a sound and was even a professional singer as a child.

Growing up in a family of five in New York City was not always easy – space is at a premium in NYC, but it also had its pluses. Ben has memories of going to see the dinosaurs at the Natural History Museum with his family and biking around Central Park after getting some hard earned freedom in middle school. Ben’s parents were supportive of his choices and always encouraged him to pursue his passions. He was lucky to benefit from all of the great institutions in NYC and sang with a professional children’s chorus and eventually went to Juilliard to get his undergraduate degree. Ben’s mom and dad still live in the neighborhood, recently retired and love babysitting.

After graduating Ben realized that although music was a passion, it was not what he wanted as a career and decided to devote his life to helping others as a special education teacher.

He got his masters degree in teaching students with disabilities from the City College of New York and taught in some of the most challenging places to teach in NYC - the South Bronx and Harlem. Those years teaching were when Ben realized that he needed to become a father one day. After succeeding as a teacher, he was promoted to become the assistant principal of the school where he taught and eventually went on to become special education training leader for teachers for multiple schools. Ben has learned so much about children and about patience through his experiences as a special education teacher.

Ben’s sister, Elena, lives and teaches in London after meeting her husband, Warwick, at a teacher’s conference, and his brother, Aaron, just moved to Las Vegas for work. Before that he and Ben lived in the same building and spent a lot of time together.


Jay ’s growing up
Jay comes from a small farming village in the Czech Republic in Europe. He grew up in a family house that his parents built themselves next to his grandparents’ farm - a place that has strongly affected his childhood. He grew up helping tend to the farm, milking cows, driving tractors, and helping with the harvest. Farm life is family life.

Jay’s family also loves children and his mom, Mila, is an elementary school teacher. His dad, Jay (Senior), runs an electronic repair factory in a nearby town where he and his younger sister Radka went to school. When Jay was in second grade, the Communist regime in the country fell which meant he was allowed to study English, his dad was able to start his own business and the family could - for the first time ever - travel to Western countries, specifically to Germany where Jay remembers getting his favorite toy - Lego - which was neither available in his home country nor affordable for his parents who were still on the low salaries in their country. Only later, Jay found out how hard his parents were saving up for the first box of Lego that months later he got for Christmas.

When Jay was 16, he received a scholarship to finish high school in the UK, where he made life-long friendships, learned how to play bagpipes and discovered he was really good at math and decision making, which later led him to the University of London and then Columbia University in New York City.

Back then it was harder to be in touch with family on long distance, but he always made sure they talked at least once a week. The whole family still remembers his tutorial on how to use email in the late 1990’s, so that they could share with each other more of their daily lives. Jay never wanted to miss the most important moments at home - he always tried to come back for holidays, he helped his grandparents to make the tough decision of closing down their farm and moved back for a while when his sister lived abroad so that their parents would have at least one child nearby.

Jay later moved from the Czech Republic to New York for his graduate studies, after which he joined an international consulting firm and travelled frequently for work. Since we got married Jay has worked in New York, and has a successful career in logistics and e-commerce.

Jay’s sister Radka is a journalist and lives in the Czech Republic.

Our marriage and our little family
We share a love of music and were married in summer 2013 in NYC with many of our friends making music as part of the special day. We danced the night away with both of our families and all of our friends and their children.

Getting married was important to us because we wanted to be the closest family members to each other which is what happens after a couple gets married. We also want to raise children together and be devoted fathers.

Before starting our family, we enjoyed our time together experiencing all that New York, and the world has to offer! – going to concerts, museums, long walks in Central Park and also travelling to over 40 countries together. We love sharing new experiences.

In the summer of 2018 we were fortunate to be able to become parents when Victor came into our family. We began to speak about having a child with our family in late 2016.

We assumed that we would adopt, but out of nowhere, we were offered eggs to create an embryo. This was a surprise and led us to have our first child through surrogacy with the help of Sarah who carried Victor to term as a surrogate (she is not genetically related to him). Victor is a loving, sweet, energetic little boy who will be a great big brother one day.

We love taking family vacations and often involve our parents and siblings. We spend at least part of the summer in Czech Republic visiting exploring the countryside, small towns and hiking. We have also had memorable vacations to the Carribean with Ben’s parents, Howard and Esther.

Before Victor was born, we went on some great adventures to Japan and on safari in South Africa. We can’t wait until our kids are old enough to share some of these adventures with them. We live in a very family friendly and diverse neighborhood. We have two fantastic parks just a few blocks from us.

Since Ben is the assistant principal of the local elementary/middle school we are very involved in our community. Jay currently works in New York office of an international food company. We have many friends and their children close to us in our neighborhood. Our good friends Ignacio and Mike just had a little girl, Sofia and our friend Samantha is raising her nephew, Haden. We often meet up at playgrounds between our houses. If you choose us to parent your child we can assure you that your child has a group of ready made friends (and a big brother) just waiting for them!

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We truly appreciate your kindness and strength and look forward to hearing from you.

Sincerely,

Ben and Jay

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