Dear Expectant Mother--a note from a happy adoptive family and two incredible birth moms:
We are Scott and Katie, and we live in Arizona! We just want to start out by saying thank you so much for taking the time to learn more about us. Adoption has positively influenced our lives in ways we never thought possible, and we hope we can make you feel more at peace about your adoption decision.
Because we have been down this road before and have been blessed with some incredible birth families, we thought it would be appropriate to include a small snippet from each of them so you can hopefully get a feel for what it would be like to be part of an open adoption with our family. Together, we are hopeful that these sweet boys can have more siblings and grow up in a big family like we both did. These birth mothers wish they could speak to all of you expectant mamas directly, but for now, here are notes to you, from them. :)
A note from C's birth mother:
"First of all, if you've found yourself here, my heart goes out to you. You've got a decision ahead of you that is probably the hardest thing you'll ever do. I empathize with you and have so much respect for you. By the same token, if you've found yourself here on this page, I encourage you to take your time and look at everything this family have written and shared. In short, if you could pick your own parents, you'd certainly choose them! For your little one on the way, I know personally you want the absolute best. That's who you'll find here. They are very unique in that they are so informed, educated about healthy living, active, and always busy doing fun, family activities. This is the family you want to be a part of! And that's how they make us feel--like we are a part of the family, too. I get updates and pictures exactly how we had pre-agreed upon, which is amazing! I feel like I have a very active role in my son's life.
"Katie, all I can say, is an INCREDBILE mom! She's got seemingly endless energy and patience and unconditional love. She's up for a challenge and she couldn't be any more genuinely kind and considerate. She has come to be my good friend and I am SO blessed that she chose to raise my son. Scott is quiet and gentle. He's a hands-on dad and quick to jump in and play! My greatest impression of Scott is that Katie couldn't be the unstoppable force of nature she is, without the support of the amazing husband she has. He leads this family and they are off to great places! My son has a great father. And L is a very loving, playful big brother. All C wants to do is be just like L! I pray they stay best friends forever.
"Well, expectant mother, I don’t envy you. You have a tough decision ahead, but I hope you see how happy and blessed I am to have chosen this family. This was the right family for me and I hope you find the right family for you. <3"
A note from L's birth mother:
“Being a birth mother I had to make the right decision for my baby and come to one of the hardest decisions of my life. I knew right from the moment I met Katie and Scott that they were the ones that would be the perfect parents. We have agreed on an open adoption and I couldn’t be happier. They have been supportive, genuinely interested in getting to know who I am, very open, and they involve me as much as they can in L’s life. I love getting pictures and videos and knowing without a doubt L is where he belongs and he is having the best life. I couldn’t imagine it any other way. It has not only helped me emotionally heal but it has also overwhelmed me with peace and love.
“Katie and Scott have made me feel that this adoption journey is nothing but an extension of family. And I just have to say that I’m always a little jealous of the fun adventures they take L on and all of the family vacations! But it makes me so happy that they do!”