It’s Mother’s Day! This year has me thinking about three people. First my mother, Angela. She passed away in 2018 from cancer, and she was my best friend. I miss her every day. She was a labor and delivery nurse for the first part of her 40-year nursing career, and a nurse practitioner in a family medicine office. She loved working with babies, children, moms, and expectant moms. I know she desperately wanted to be a grandmother, and I only wish I could have made that dream come true before she passed. She was also a great role model to be a mom. Many of us tend to realize later rather than sooner that the things that were impressed on us growing up have such a large impact. That is true of growing up with my parents. They really taught us so many things to allow us to be independent. I value the things that my mother shared with me and made me a better person.
I am also thinking about you, expectant mother. I honestly cannot imagine what you are thinking about expecting a child and visiting a site like Adoptimist. I imagine the idea of “mother’s day” is a little awkward at this time. I think I would be a little scared, a little confused and probably pretty overwhelmed – and all of it is okay to feel. I don’t know all the right things to say here, but know that there is a network of people just like me waiting to invite you into their lives. Sean and I would like to pursue an open adoption, which means you too would become a part of our lives along with your child. If not us, there are so many others that you would be helping to realize their dreams. You have so much power to do to good here.
Lastly, I am thinking of myself. I dream that next year is my first official Mother’s Day. We have tried to conceive a child of our own since we got married in 2012. We started down the fertility treatment path and did not encounter success. The next steps were expensive and medically invasive, and we decided to consider other options. We had always discussed adoption, and finally determined this is the path for us. Adoption may seem like a difficult decision, but really for us, it was one of the most natural. We have adopted family members and members of our “extended” family that are not blood relatives, but nevertheless a true part of what we consider to be family. We cannot wait to add to our family and hope to meet you soon.
Thanks for reading. And Happy Mother’s Day.