Seeking to Be a Mama for the First Time to a Little One w/ Cultural Background!
Dear Expectant Mother/Family,
I know this must be a scary and confusing time for you and you want to make the right decision without judgement. A decision made out of love is a decision that is selfless. Whether I am chosen or not, I am grateful that you are making this choice that will make someone's dream come true. You must also have questions: "Will they love my child the same if they have their own?" & "What are they going to say about me to the child later on?" A child needs to know they are loved from every direction. It’s not okay to show favoritism to one child over another no matter what the circumstances are. I have seen so many in the world do this and it is completely wrong. It’s also never okay to paint a child’s biological family in a bad light. It's not healthy for the child and it's not fair to you. As a teacher, this is a constant practice to speak positively and build confidence in a child’s value. I can promise to continually tell them the love you have for them and that you care about them and who they become no matter how far away you may be. I strongly believe in this because I know that every word you speak to a child plays a part in how they feel about themselves.
I have always seen myself adopting even when I was a little girl. Now, I am a 38 year old single woman diagnosed with Poly-cystic Ovarian Syndrome and have a high chance of infertility. I always thought I would fall in love, get married and have children by this time in my life. But the right guy has still not come along and dating has proved to be more difficult as time goes on. I feel time to be a mother is slowly passing by and I know my life will never feel complete without a child in it. As I began this journey, I was overwhelmed by the amount of love and support by family and friends who were excited about my desire to grow a family. Reading over their reference letters (available to you if desired), gave me so much courage and encouragement to become an adoptive mother.
I have a Master’s degree in education with additional certifications in the areas of Mathematics, Language Arts, & Special Education. I am a teacher at the top K-8 elementary school in our area and feel this has prepared me for so many things I will encounter with a child. Being a teacher gives me the ability to spend time with my child when they are not in school. I hope to teach my child to make decisions that he or she will feel proud of and to always do their best to become the person they want to be. I am a Christian who believes in loving God and loving others with kindness and compassion.I grew up in a loving family in a small southern town in Missouri. I still live close to that area in the beautiful Ozarks region. I love the beauty of nature and traveling during summer breaks. Some activities I enjoy are drawing, spending time with family & friends, watching tv/movies, visiting parks, doing church activities, swimming, hiking, baking.I could see myself taking my child to National Parks, on scenic hikes, camping, and kayaking during summer breaks. I also envision sitting down at the table to play board games, make crafts, and attending their school activities throughout the year. I have a large extended family and we like to do lots of holiday traditions together such as making Christmas cookies, looking at lights, watching fireworks, big holiday meals, buying Easter outfits, watching parades etc. Getting to know someone is so difficult through a letter, but my personality is gentle, compassionate, nurturing, academic and creative. I am a task oriented person, and I try to be positive and inspiring to others and make the world a better place. You may view my Facebook page if you want a better sense of the real me outside of this letter to know who I am.
I am looking for a newborn from a Latino, Polynesian or Native American descent. I have absolutely no prejudice towards other ethnicities, I just feel God has called me to adopt a baby from these origins. It's hard to put into words how I feel this is my purpose and destiny; I just know deep inside that one day my child will have connections of this heritage. I have a passion toward these cultures that started when I was a little girl and I feel a tugging in my heart when I see the beauty of the people, environment, music or celebrations from these regions. I have learned languages, went to classes, ordered cultured kids books, been on mission trips, joined trans-racial adoption groups and made many face-to-face friends of various cultures. I know the importance of keeping heritage alive and am excited to incorporate that as they grow up. I am excited for a beautiful mother who will also come into my life and be a part of this story of how God made it all come together. I'm sure I don't know how to say all the right things to explain this, but my heart means well and I know that there is a child out there that I am meant to be there for and fall in love with.
I am interested in an adoption where I would welcome the chance to share pictures, updates, letters and possible visits as they grow up. I want to give you that sense of connection and peace if you want that. However, I understand that everyone feels differently and I would be open to other options based on your desires. I think that it's important for both you and the child to know each other and have a sense of connection on a level that you are comfortable with.
As you go through the process of selecting a family, please know that I support your decision and I don’t judge you. If I am chosen, I will cherish this child. I will surround them with unconditional love and affection. This child will have opportunities, a home full of love, laughter, and joy. I'll provide safety, a good home, education, an example of good character, family & friends and support them as they develop their own personality. I have so much love to give and hope that you would consider the chance for me to share it with your baby. I am willing to travel for the birth & adoption. I have faith that God will place you together perfectly for a match!