Who We Are
Together we balance out our strengths and work as a team. Kate brings the artistic side with art, music, reading and writing, while Mark brings the analytical side with math, mechanics, science and avionics.
We really enjoy traveling, working around the house, kayaking, seeing concerts & comedy shows, and going to restaurants with family & friends.
To stay active, Mark participates in CrossFit and likes to work in the yard; Kate just took up personal training and attends a gym close to home.
Mark and I decided to adopt a little over a year ago after realizing it would be the best way for us to create a family and do so in a loving and meaningful way.
The process really had us soul searching as we completed our intake meeting and proceeded through each phase of the homestudy process. We have done online webinars, in person seminars, and in-agency training courses. Throughout each phase, we have grown closer and closer together and learned more about ourselves than we ever thought we’d know. It has been a really beautiful experience.
Even though our state and agency requirements are complete, we continue to read books and articles on how to be good parents, how to live in an open adoption, and how to parent and lead a child through his/her various chapters of life (with and without society’s peanut gallery judgements that may come our family’s way). We also continue to try and connect with other families who have been through the adoption process, keep in conversations with pediatricians and experts in the field, and keep in close contact with our beloved social worker.
We realize every child brought into this world is a gift from God, and we vow to be forever grateful to the birth parent/s who decide to choose us to parent their child. How can one NOT be empathetic to a birthparent who made the ultimate sacrafice to provide a better suited life for their child? That is an incredibly hard and emotionally mature decision. Mark and I believe it’s heroic to say the least. It’s a truly selfless and loving act, and one that takes enormous courage and love for one’s child.
As for the child growing up, we believe in allowing him/her the freedom to develop their own true self. We appreciate that every human being is unique and born with their own personality, likes and dislikes, and little ideosyncrosies. Understanding that these will be a combination of environmental and nurturing influence, as well as genetic influence, we look forward to the opportunity to encourage and support these traits; we can’t wait to watch and guide them as they grow up safely developing their very own special identity!
So - as we step into this new decade, 2020 will be another year that Mark and I get to see how much tighter we are as husband and wife and how no hurdle is too tall to jump. It’s a time to reflect and be proud of the emotional strengh we never knew we had, and the knowledge, openness and understanding we have gained through the help and guidance of Bright Futures Adoption Center. Most importantly though, it will be a time to keep moving forward - We are geared with more tools and knowledge now, and we are stronger and more determined. We are ready to take this new year on with all the emotional ups, downs, and all-arounds that may lie ahead.
We continue to keep hopeful with our hearts open for the connection we know will be sure to come. We look forward for the opportunity to embody what the true definition of gratitude REALLY means and REALLY feels like.
We can’t wait to see what this year has in store for our adoption process story!
Cheers to gracious 2020!
- Kate and Mark