Dear Expectant Mother, Greetings and Salutations!
That's the super-formal way Charlotte speaks to Wilbur in one of our favorite children's books, Charlotte's Web. It seems so formal and a weird way to say hello, but that's what she says and, we learn through the story, it's how she breaks the ice with someone who will become very special to her. This letter is also a super-formal way to break the ice with someone we don't know, but who may become very important to us.
Families are made in so many ways, but my (Kelly) larger family story is one that has always included adoption. My maternal grandpa was a pastor in Alaska decades ago. Two mothers made the brave and loving choice to make an adoption plan for their babies and these little boys were welcomed into the noise, chaos, and joy of a pastor's family that already had four kids! My grandparents never shared the stories of my uncles' birth mothers, but they did share the deep sense of gratitude they had for the selflessness of their mothers. They also shared that though each of their mothers chose "closed" adoption as their plan, my grandparents never stopped praying for them. I am struck by the strength of all mothers who choose to make a plan of adoption for their babies out of great love for their child. I am grateful for the ways adoption has already created my family and I'm hopeful that, as adoption has changed over the generations, our story together may look different from the days of old when "closed" adoption was the only option.
My family (Derek) is all about healing. My mom was a nurse for many years. My sister is one of the kindest people around, always looking to see what pain people around her are hiding and finding ways to help them heal. I have lots of scars on my body, so I don't have the luxury of ignoring the fact that hard and hurtful things happen, and yet amazing healing can come to that pain. We don't presume to know your story, of course, but we do know that all kinds of people (probably everyone!) need healing. We know that no one would take lightly the prospect of making an adoption plan for their child. On the contrary, we're amazed at your courage of considering this as a way to give your child the very best start in life. No matter what you choose to do, we're cheering for you, hoping you can heal from any fear or pain in your life, and we hope you trust yourself to do the very best thing for the miracle growing inside you, whatever that plan is.