Ron and I met on a blind date which we both were sure was doomed to failure. Luckily for us it turned out to be a great date and after only a couple of months we knew we were meant to be together. We got married in June of 2002 and have been happy together every day since.
After we had been married a couple of years we decided it was time to add to our family. So we started trying to have kids. We had problems getting pregnant and went through a number of tests and medical procedures with no luck. So we eagerly decided to adopt. We then spent almost two years trying to adopt a baby. We had a couple of failed adoption attempts during that time, and after a particularly emotional attempt, we decided to step back for a little while. Shortly after that, we discovered that I was pregnant with our first son, Luke. His birth was immediately the second-best day in our lives. We were sure that he was our miracle and were surprised three months later to find out that I was expecting again. 11 months after Luke was born, we welcomed Jack in to our family. What a blessing those two boys were, both to Ron and I, and to each other. Unfortunately, after the blessing of the two boys, we went through two infant losses. The worst day of my life became the day that I watched my two little boys help my husband be pallbearers for their baby brother, Peter. After we lost Peter we really worried about having any more children. We talked with our doctor and decided to try again. We got pregnant with our sweet baby Beth but were terrified every minute that something would go wrong. During my pregnancy we discovered that I had a blood clotting disorder that most likely contributed to the loss of our two previous babies. Needless to say that the day Beth was born, when we heard that first beautiful scream was another one of those best days ever. However, we knew that I would not be able to have any more babies after that. The complications and risks were so high that it wouldn’t be safe to try again. So we decided that we were happy with our sweet little family, and we definitely are, but have felt like we still have so much love to give. This is the part of our story where you come in. We want to add to our amazing family through the miracle of adoption and want you to be part of our family as we do this.
We live in a cozy older home in an amazing quiet little neighborhood. We are within walking distance of three parks, the city library, our church, and all of the kids’ schools from elementary to high school. We have the best neighbors in the world and really do believe in the saying that it takes a village to raise a child. We have made some of the best friends possible in the years that we have lived here and have great people that we can rely on at any time.
The kids have so many friends that live around us and it is rare to not have at least one or two of the neighborhood kids over any afternoon after school. So many of our neighbors are basically family we love doing things together.
We have two dogs, a German Shepard and Chihuahua. They are very much the odd couple, but get along so well. Both dogs are wonderful with our kids and the kids love them. We have had them since our daughter was just a baby and they are so good and patient with kids.
There are not enough words in the English language for me to say how amazing Ron is. When we got married I was so excited to marry a man that always made me laugh and that always put me first. I didn’t realize then how much more I would come to love Ron and all the things about him. I have learned that he is hilarious but can be serious when he needs to be. He is compassionate and caring and so aware of other people. He has helped me throughout our marriage to be more understanding of other people and the situations and circumstances that they might be in. I am so blessed to be his wife and glad to have him by my side forever.
Ron does so much to help not only our family, but our community too. He diligently serves others in our church, runs support groups for the National Alliance on Mental Illness, and puts up with Junior High Students on a daily basis. He is pretty much a super hero. He is an amazing example of unconditional love and serving others.
Ron loves computers, video games, and spending time with our family. We are both certified SCUBA divers and love the dives we have done together. He coaches track, helps with his school volleyball and basketball teams, and loves being involved. He loves having his summers off to be home with the kids and has spent a lot of time watching videos to learn how to “style” our daughter's hair.
Brenda brightens any room she walks in to. She’s cheerful and supportive as well as understanding and nonjudgmental. This is perhaps best illustrated by a major career plan change I made in college. I’d wanted to become a pharmacist or a dentist and was struggling my way through the second chemistry class on my way towards a degree in science. It didn’t hold my attention. One day, in the middle of class, I said goodbye to my friends, and left to call her and tell her I wanted to pursue a career more along the lines of my interests – specifically teaching social studies. Without missing a beat, she told me to go for it. I’ve always appreciated her willingness to support me in finding a career that better aligned with me.
She’s got mad math skills as well which serve her well in her career as an accountant (this is especially important as it is one of my weaknesses.) This also comes in handy as she does the heavy lifting in dealing with family finances as well as taxes. She’s an excellent cook and baker and does a surprisingly good job at improvising new things out of leftovers or the food we have on hand. And I love that she loves helping the kids learn these skills at their own pace – without any frustration or pushing her choices onto them.
When the kids are emotional or hurt, I’m clearly the secondary parent. They always want her to comfort them when they’re struggling and it’s easy to see why - she’s the glue that holds our family together and takes our house and turns it into a home.