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Paul & Ryan

Fun fact: we're SO ready to be dads!

We are Paul and Ryan of Robbinsdale, Minnesota, a small suburb adjacent to Minneapolis. We have been together since 2009 and were married in 2013 on the fourth anniversary of our first date. Raising a child together has always been a dream of ours and we are so excited to bring that dream to life through adoption. Our circle of friends and family includes those who were adopted, grew their families through adoption, or created adoption plans of their own. We look forward to providing a loving, supportive, and engaging home for our child that is inclusive of his or her adoption story and birth family.

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Who We Are

We met in June 2009 when Ryan volunteered as an usher at the theater Paul worked at as box office manager, and our first date was a Monday evening at a local brewery, an exhibit about the Titanic at the Science Museum, and a nice dinner in Uptown. We married on the fourth anniversary of our first date in 2013 and recently celebrated our first decade as a couple!

Paul and Ryan brought Channing home in January 2012, a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel who had been rescued from (we believe) a puppy mill in Arkansas. He has brought so much joy to our lives, even if he spends his entire day sleeping and cuddling!

We share a passion for arts and culture, with a mutual love for theater, music, film, books, and television. But we aren't pretentious - we enjoy compelling drama, be it a serious foreign film or a ridiculous argument between Real Housewives. And sometimes we just want reruns of The Golden Girls. Above all, we laugh together every day.

Adoption Diary

July Reflection - Finding Solace and Comfort

2020 has been a year that has tested the mental and physical wellness of so many people. The coronavirus and racial injustice continue to grab hold of our country testing how we live our lives and the conversations we have with loved ones. Sometimes those crucial conversations don’t always go the way we think or hope they will. It can be hard to find the time or energy to focus on yourself, but personal mental health and wellness should never be thought of as a selfish act.

As we all try to practice social distancing, it has forced us to find new ways to find solace and comfort in a time when it’s hard to see friends, family, or do the activities we loved to do. Paul has never considered himself a green thumb but has long admired those farm-to-table gardeners who cook with what’s in their backyard. Along with the help of his brother, Adam, he has planted a variety of tomatoes, peppers, spaghetti squash, and some herbs around the house. It’s a game of trial and error testing what areas provide the best shade and sun for his vegetables and plants. Good thing he and Ryan like spicy foods with the jalapenos that are coming in! Paul’s work from home schedule has also provided more time to focus on running. It’s his exercise of choice that releases the stress and tension of the day while he’s jamming to a fun playlist. 

While Paul may be getting his hands dirty in the garden, Ryan continues to keep his mind sharp as he’s turned to puzzles and books as his outlet. He finished his 3D puzzle of Notre Dame, which now adorns the top of our piano. Notre Dame is a special place for us given our memorable climb to the top during our honeymoon to Paris. A daily ritual for Ryan is to complete the New York Times Crossword Puzzle in the paper. We are staunch advocates for journalism, so we subscribe daily to the Minneapolis Star Tribune. It’s not just the physical puzzles, but the Lumosity mind challenges on his iPad along with the solitaire games that also bring him inner peace. In a way, he’s taking after his father who was frequently found playing Spider Solitaire on his iPad. Both Ryan and Paul are staunch readers with Ryan devouring non-fiction works like “White Fragility” by Robin Diangelo and “Stonewall” by Martin Duberman. Paul switches back and forth from fiction to non-fiction as he finishes a Stephen King book, something for his book club, or a juicy memoir.

While we haven’t been matched to a birth mother yet, it was fun to organize some baby toys in the baby room, arrange some children’s book on a new bookshelf, and envision what it will be like we when expand our family. We continue to reflect on what we learned about transracial and transcultural adoption as we continue to have conversations about the racial disparities in our country. July meant another one of our quarterly GROW events through our agency. We had a really educational event via Zoom that allowed all of our parents to take part and learn more about the process of open adoption.

Take some time to vision our profile through our agency, Children’s Home Society/Lutheran Social Services.

If you or anyone you know has made the hard choice to seek adoption, please reach out to us at or please contact our agency’s pregnancy counseling and birth parent services at 888.205.3769 or email at

Check Out Our Agency Profile!

Have you checked out our profile through our agency, Children’s Home Society/Lutheran Social Services of Minnesota? We are featured in their Waiting Family Profiles under the Couples without Children section.

We decided to shake things up a bit and add some new photos to our online profile! Here is our profile if you want to save and bookmark it.

If you or anyone you know has made the hard choice to seek adoption, please reach out to us at or please contact our agency’s pregnancy counseling and birth parent services at 888.205.3769 or email at

Thank You for Visiting Our Adoption Profile

We want to thank you for considering us as adoptive parents for your child.

We truly appreciate your kindness and strength and look forward to hearing from you.


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