Brian & Julie

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Brian & Julie

Most children come into families through the love of just two people. Ours will arrive through the love of many more!

Hello! So happy you're here!

Thank you for taking the time to learn about us; we know that the decisions you're making in the coming months take a great deal of courage along with research and trust. We're honored that you would consider placing your baby with us.

The first time we discussed the idea of our future family, we were juniors in college and just 20 years old. We are both oldest children in families with four children. Having many brothers and sisters growing up and being close with all of them (though of course there were the usual sibling squabbles!) made it easy for us to agree that we would be thrilled to have a family of four children. We got married at 23 and began planning for a family right away. Adoption was always on our radar, and it turned out building our family biologically wasn't in the cards for us. We're excited about building our family through the miracle of adoption. Most children come into families through the love of just two people--but ours will arrive through the love of many more! Us, our adoption team and most of all, the selfless and unconditional love of birth parents. What a beautiful thing!

This child will be our first. Our two brothers and four sisters can’t wait to welcome a beautiful little niece or nephew into our family. This baby will also be the very first grandchild for both our parents, which means four spry grandparents in their fifties ready to shower love and attention on this baby. And let’s not forget the seven loving great-grandparents who are anxious to knit adorable outfits and bounce him or her on their knees at Thanksgiving dinner. It’s not just all old people though--we also spend lots of time with our two sweet goddaughters, ages two and five, who will probably be our baby’s first friends!

Julie is an English teacher and looks forward to spending hours reading to our child. Julie was a 30-hour-per-week nanny for many years during school, mostly working with families of four. She loved taking the children to Library Baby Story Hour. Craft projects and cookie baking are other activities Julie tried out as a nanny and can’t wait to share with our own
children. Brian looks forward to bringing our baby to the yearly cousins’ beach trip, where all of our siblings plus our three cousins and their dog pile into one house for a week of sun and fun. As an engineer, Brian builds truly exceptional sand castles and is eager to pass these skills along to our kids.

We are fortunate to be able to provide a child with a safe and stable home environment in a peaceful suburb. Education is important to us, and we live in one of the top school districts in our state. We intend to raise our family with Catholic, Christian values, since this is how we were both raised.
Our home is located within walking distance of two parks, the elementary school and the middle school, and of course the library.

We know this is an incredibly hard decision for you. Please know it is our sincerest wish to provide unconditional love and support for your baby. We hope you will consider allowing us to be a part of your baby’s life. If you would like to know more, please call our friend and adoption attorney Allan Hazlett at (785) 235-5497, or e-mail us directly at brian-julie@outlook.com

Sincerely,
Brian & Julie

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Who We Are

Ever been waiting to cross the street, standing with a few strangers? Well, we believe people should put their phones down and say hello when that happens, because that is in fact how we met! It was our first day of College and we were waiting to cross the street. Brian was carrying a musical instrument case, and Julie asked him what he played. And that was that! We dated straight through all four years of college and got married shortly after graduation. Music has always played an important role in our lives. Brian plays the trumpet and Julie loves to sing. We also share a love for being outside and working in the garden. By far the most important thing to both of us, though, is family. We are both the oldest in our own families, and each have three younger siblings. Growing up in large families was very special for both of us, and we can't wait to have a family of our own!

Adoption Diary

Kansas!

Early on in our adoption diary, we mentioned that when we first started our research, we realized many friends of ours had build their families through adoption. Another common factor was that many of our friends had adopted children from the state of Kansas. We are from PA, but these beautiful stories from our friends inspired us. We are willing to travel anywhere in the US to meet birth parents, but for some reason we have a very good feeling about Kansas! Our legal team and our match service are both from Topeka, and we look forward to visiting Kansas some day, either to meet birth parents or just for fun!

The Beach House

Growing up as a Navy brat, I moved around a lot. But the one place which has remained a constant was the beach house my mom’s side of the family shares. Now, I want this picture to be accurate. Some people hear “beach house” and think of a mansion on the ocean, six bedrooms, a pool. These kinds of structures are indeed sprouting up on all sides of our family house. Our house could easily be mistaken for the garage of one of these neighboring houses.
Our beach house is just that. It is a house you can sleep at after the day spent on the beach. A tiny white bungalow with black shutters, over 100 years old and other than running water and electricity, not a whole lot has been done to it since my family purchased it in the 60s. My grandfather bought the property hoping to begin a ‘side hustle’ (term I learned from my students) of flipping houses. He decided it would be nice for his own family to enjoy some beach time first, and before long, my mom and her brother were so attached to the place that the thought of selling it was unthinkable. My grandfather and grandmother befriended the families who lived across the street, and a community was formed. The kids and parents all got along and spent decades of summers together.
My grandfather was a high school principal (the love of working with children runs generations back in our family!) and he was not exactly flush with cash. The house was in utter disrepair, which was how he could afford to buy it in the first place. The floorboards were rotting, so he replaced them himself. When I walk through the basement today (unfinished, sand floor) I can still see the boards he put in. After fixing up the stability of the place, he needed to put down carpet. A warehouse in the city was having a bargain—if you came and removed the carpet yourself, you got to keep whatever you removed for free. So, off my grandfather and uncle went and hauled back as much carpet as they could. This is how our beach house came to be carpeted with red and black plaid industrial carpet.
This carpet remained in the house while my uncle and mother grew up. It remained there when they got married. It remained there when they had kids. My memories of childhood summers have a background of black and red plaid carpet, worn down to the netting in places by then. It became an iconic piece of family history. When my parents and aunt and uncle saved up to replace the carpet (I was 18 that summer), we had a piece of the red and black plaid framed. It hangs on the wall over the kitchen table at the beach house still.
Furniture acquisition took place in a similar manner. A thrift store in the city was going out of business. My grandfather came home with two faux-leather fire-engine red armchairs, two black armchairs of the same fabric, and a black couch. It was the kind of furniture you get stuck to when you come in hot and sweaty from the beach, covered in a thin film of sunscreen and sand. While we have replaced the couch in the last several years, the armchairs remain. As do a pair of table lamps sporting giant brass eagles as their bases.
This 4th of July weekend, my family, my aunt and uncle’s family, their dog, and an assortment of boyfriends, husbands and fiancés all converged on the beach house as per usual. It is a three-bedroom house. We are 11 people with just the family, and when boyfriends and fiancés are added to the mix, that number quickly climbs to 16 people. Even though my cousins and siblings are in their early to mid-twenties, our parents are conservative catholic people. So anyone who is not married, their significant other sleeps on the front porch. I kid you not. It’s a screened-in porch with white whicker furniture and royal blue indoor-outdoor carpet the age of which is anyone’s guess. So out come the air mattresses and the boys march out to their barracks!
What I love most about the beach house is that in a time when people are separated by literal distance, technologies which discourage personal interaction, and the usual chaos of normal life, this is a place that brings us all together. Phones are left on the kitchen table. We sit on the beach, eat peanut-butter-and-jelly sandwiches, take long walks, and make dinner on an old charcoal grill. We talk about our joys and our burdens. On rainy days, we have Yatzee tournaments. We swim in the ocean and build sandcastles. It’s such a blessing to see our family grow as everyone gets married, and we have even started discussing at what point it may become necessary to park a camper in the driveway so the boyfriends don’t have to sleep on the porch.
The beach house isn’t much to look at, but it’s the love of our family that makes it into a haven. It is the place where I feel most at home in the world. And you can bet those 16 people are absolutely counting down the minutes until we can bring a new generation of children to enjoy it with us!

Please enjoy this picture of my cousins and I at one of our annual beach trips.

Thank You for Visiting Our Adoption Profile

We want to thank you for considering us as adoptive parents for your child.

We truly appreciate your kindness and strength and look forward to hearing from you.

Sincerely,

Brian & Julie

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