I am a proud mama (through domestic infant adoption) to my son Maxwell who is 3 years old. He makes my days brighter and fills my heart with so much love. I pinch myself daily that I was chosen by his mom to be the one to raise him and help him blossom.
I provide updates and pictures to Maxwell’s mom via text message and have let her know that we’re open to more communication and get togethers whenever she is ready. Even though Maxwell is young, I read him books about adoption and talk about his birth mom regularly. I want to make sure he feels comfortable coming to me with any questions that might arise surrounding his adoption. I will always answer honestly, in an age appropriate way, with the information that I know.
I have a strong community of adoptive parents, birth parents, and adoptees to help guide and support me in my parenting journey. I also continue to educate myself with books, podcasts, webinars, and workshops regarding adoption, multiracial families, and various parenting styles. I make it a point to organize play dates with other adoptive families so that Maxwell will grow up with friends who have families like his. I also make sure that Maxwell is connected to the Black community in our area and I am committed to seeking out racial mirrors in all aspects of his life. My goal is to raise Maxwell to be proud of his heritage by constantly and consistently affirming his racial identity and surrounding him with others who do the same. I am always learning and growing and am so appreciative to my Black friends who share their lived experiences, parenting tips, and general advice in support of my multicultural family.
I come from a large family (2 brothers, 4 sisters and 2 step-sisters) and Maxwell has 12 cousins, many whom he sees on a weekly basis. Family get togethers are generally a bit chaotic, but filled with lots of laughter and love. That’s not to say we are perfect by any means, but I am grateful to have the family that I do. They are very supportive of me as a single parent and help out whenever I need it.
I would probably be deemed the quiet one of my siblings, but that’s mostly because I am a thinker and an observer more than I am a talker. But get me going on a subject that I’m passionate about and you’ll probably wish that I would be quiet ;).
I have several passions, which include travel, cultural awareness, and social justice. I work for a travel company and am very fortunate to have had many amazing opportunities to travel the world, starting with studying abroad in college. Travel has of course taught me so much about other countries and cultures, but also transformed me into the person that I am. It has been the best education I could receive. I hope to pass along my love of travel to Maxwell and any future kiddos. I also want to make sure to celebrate the various cultures right here in the States, as diversity is what makes this country unique. Obviously there are major strides that need to be taken in order to gain equity for all cultures and races in America. I am committed to speaking out against social injustices not only for my own kids but for all children of color.
I believe that Maxwell can achieve and be anything he wants, and I promise to provide him and any future siblings the foundation needed for success. I will be their number one advocate and cheerleader, supporting them in their own passions and dreams no matter what those might be.
Having grown up in a large family, I appreciate the sibling bonds that I have and want the same for Maxwell. Of course we didn’t all get along all of the time, but there is something to be said about sharing childhood experiences and the bond that creates. I am excited about the idea of Maxwell being a big brother and the fun that he and a sibling would have together, undoubtedly getting into trouble together from time to time too.
I’m not currently dating anyone, but my criteria for “Mr. Right” includes not only being a great partner, but also being an awesome dad. Regardless, I’ve made sure that Maxwell has lots of positive male role models in his life.