Dear Expectant Parent,
Dear Expectant Parent,
We're Joseph and Andy. Thank you for taking the time to learn a bit about us.
We live in Oakland, California, with our cat, Kitty Pryde—named by Joseph for a character from the X-Men comic books. Joseph took Kitty in several years ago from a foster home, and she’s been a part of our lives ever since. She’s small, but she makes up for it with her rambunctiousness.
Family is important to both of us, and one of our core values. We know we have a great family together, and we love that each of us has been accepted into the family of the other. We want to share this loving community that has grown around our relationship with our children. We hope to grow our family in the next several years, having children both through adoption and surrogacy. We love the idea of our kids having many siblings, partly because we grew up so close to our own. We want our kids to have peers to look up to, to learn from and teach, to play with, and to support them as they grow up.
Though we and our kids may have come from very different backgrounds, we would be one family. We would also want our children to honor their birth parents as part of our larger extended family and history as well. It’s important to us that our kids know they belong in our family but also to where they came from. We believe that family is both the people you’re born around and grow up with, but also the people you choose to be a part of your life as you move through it.
Although we’re both from California, our families have different stories. Joseph’s family is Catholic with Portuguese roots on both his parents’ sides, but they’ve been in California for several generations. Andy’s grandparents were from China, but his parents were born in Taiwan, and came to the US just a few years before Andy was born. Andy speaks Chinese with his family, and would like to raise his children with his family’s cultural traditions: mooncakes at Mid-Autumn Festival, big dinners at Chinese New Year, shoes off in the house, and most importantly, honoring and respecting one’s elders.
We invite you to read more about us. This can only be an incredibly tough time for you, and we can only say to you that we offer you our love and our hope for the future.
Joseph and Andy
P.S. You can see more photos of what we're up to here: https://www.joeyandy.co/happenings