We both have a lot of personal connections to adoption. We have cousins and siblings who were adopted, and we have birth mothers among our family and close friends. Some of those adoptions are closed, and some are open. In addition to reading all the books we can get our hands on and seeking out advice from other couples who have adopted, we have listened to our friends and family talk about how adoption affects them.
We would love an open adoption, which can mean anything from annual letters in the mail, to texting you pictures so you can see how much they look like you, to regular get-togethers. Until we get to speak with you, though, we don’t want to assume what feels right to YOU. But our biggest priority is doing what’s best for the child we raise and also keeping your needs in mind. If it’s what you want, we would love a close, open relationship where our child knows one or both of their biological parents, and even their extended biological family.
We know every situation is unique. You might or might not be comfortable with an open adoption relationship, which is why we aren’t set in stone. But we know from the birth moms in our lives that they never stop thinking about, or loving, their child. And we know from the adoptees in our lives that they always wonder about their family of origin. Whatever works out we will, as parents, never let the adoption be a secret. We will teach our child that they are doubly loved - by us, and by the person or people who brought them into the world and made an adoption plan for them.
If it feels right and the timing works out, we love the idea of meeting up and getting to know each other before the baby comes, hearing your hopes and dreams for your child, and even going along for doctor’s visits. We want you to feel you know us and feel peace about the decision. We consider this the start of a lifelong relationship, of a team of people dedicated to giving this child what they need in life, making sure they feel loved and supported as they grow and feel secure in their identity. We would work with you on the story we tell them about how they came into the world, and always speak about you with respect.
Before the baby is born, our hope is that you can ask us as many questions as you need, to know us well, to be comfortable being real with us. We can only put so much on a profile, so please reach out - you can send us an email at LizandDannyAdopt@yahoo.com. We’re doing an independent search because we want to have a personal connection with the person or people who choose us!
It finally feels like fall here in Washington DC, with the leaves turning.
As we get closer to the holidays we’re excited to see our families, and dreaming of adding a child of our own to our family. Danny just became an uncle, so we’ll get to meet his new nephew at Christmas! We’ve also been building up our collection of children’s books, especially ones that feature kids with adoption stories. And our parents are excited to become grandparents again.
Liz also recently started practicing the piano again, after a few years away from it. One day she looks forward to teaching her own kids how to play. This weekend, we visited Liz’s parents and her brother and nieces and nephews came over to celebrate birthdays. And Liz got to play the piano with her littlest niece.