I couldn’t resist this meme. On the surface, it’s meant to be very positive. But Superman had trouble with his origins and his identity. His adoption was not perfect, and I would venture to say that no adoption…or very few…is perfect.
Everyday we read as much as I can about adoption. It’s important to us that we understand the perspectives of all sides of the adoption triad. It’s hard not to be affected by some of the negative adoption stories out there, and we want to educate ourselves as much as possible to ensure that our children experience as little trauma as possible.
We can’t help but notice that a lot of the negative adoption stories are a result of closed adoption, lack of communication between birth and adoptive families, or the adoptive parents’ failure to recognize their child’s birth family’s history, culture, race, etc.
We are so excited to become parents, but we are almost as excited to share our child’s story with their bio families. We are believers in open adoption, and we plan to do whatever we can make sure our children know who they are and where they come from regardless of the level of involvement the bio family wants to have.
Adoption is love.