When I (Bethany) was eighteen, I was diagnosed with a hormonal abnormality that causes infertility. I had never really thought about adoption; in fact, I hadn't ever really thought about being a mother before. After grieving the loss of my fertility with close family and friends, I began to think about the implications for my future. I researched different kinds of adoption. I learned that if one family out of every three churches in America adopted a child, there would be no more children in need of families in the United States.
I decided that I wanted to marry someone who wanted to adopt -- and not just because I wanted to adopt, but because HE wanted to. On one of our first dates, Ryan told me about a family he met as a camp counselor at Sky Ranch. The family consisted of multiple adopted children, several with special needs. It was through this and similar experiences that he had felt the Lord placing adoption on his heart. He shared this with me before he knew that I had any thoughts on adoption. We didn't know a lot back then, but we knew we each felt a calling.
After we got engaged, Ryan and I visited a doctor who specializes in my specific diagnosis. To our enormous surprise, she informed us that I had been misdiagnosed six years prior. She had no reason to believe that we would have any trouble conceiving. And yet the desire to adopt had been planted. God used an infertility misdiagnosis to open my eyes to His desire for me and Ryan to adopt a baby. This new medical news did not change that.
Two and a half years ago, we got married. Since then, we've been through new jobs, two moves, our first house purchase, the death of family members, two puppies, graduate school, and more laughter than I could have possibly imagined. Now we're ready for the biggest adventure yet - parenthood!