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Tom and Dana

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Tom and Dana
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We’re Tom, Dana, and Luke. Thank you for taking the time to learn about us!

Every night when we sit down to dinner, we raise our glasses and say, “CHEERS TO FAMILY!” and we appreciate you reading about ours. We hope this information here will provide you with a snapshot of us, the kinds of people we are, the fun we have together, and most important, the life that we would provide your child.

We appreciate the effort you are taking in finding the right fit for you and your child and how brave you are for putting your child first. Adoption has always been a part of our plans for growing our family, and we’re honored you’re taking some time with our profile.

We want to give you peace of mind in knowing that we will provide a warm, safe, and nurturing home for your child. We pledge to you that we will love your child unconditionally, and support them in all they do. We will provide a home that celebrates who they are and honors your courageous act. They will be part of a family where laughter is abundant, hugs are always available, and love is endless.

If there’s anything in this profile that resonates with you even a little, we’d love to chat with you to tell you more about us and learn about you. We wish you luck and offer prayers as you go through this process, knowing whatever you decide will be the very best outcome for you and your child.

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Who We Are

Our story began in 2004 when we met at a friend’s BBQ in Washington, D.C. Tom was an energetic, outdoors-y guy who had just moved from California. Dana was working full time and finishing graduate school at Johns Hopkins. She was exhausted!

“Let’s do this, let’s do that,” Tom would say. A group of friends, already exhausted east coasters, dubbed this funny, energetic guy, New Guy.
But Dana still remembers how Tom’s laughter and energy were invigorating back then.

Summer was turning to autumn, and suddenly we were taking drives to corn mazes, wine festivals, and looking out at the Chesapeake Bay in Annapolis, MD. Soon enough, we realized that we loved the same things—being outdoors, exploring new places and foods, and traveling, which we did over a few years of dating. Somewhere in there we also got a puppy, too—our good boy, Milo, who just turned twelve years old! Finally, five years after meeting, we were married in Annapolis, MD, a block away from where we had our first date and got engaged.

Before getting married, we talked a lot about having kids and knew even then that we would likely pursue adoption at some point. Growing up, this was something Dana always wanted to do, and Tom loved the idea, too.

We have always believed that we’ll have the children we’re meant to have whether that’s naturally or through adoption. In 2013, we were lucky enough to have our son, Luke. As fortunate as we are to have one child already, we know that our family is not yet complete. As our son gets older, and we get older, too (!), we know this is the time to find the other child that was meant for our family. So, here we are!

We are proud of the family we’ve created so far, which is centered on love, togetherness, community, and faith. We can’t wait to bring a new little one into our family to teach them about these values. Our son, Luke, is a funny, independent kid, who has already begun making his own plans for a brother or sister, whom he loving calls, “Dory Pumpkin.” We can never get rid of anything either because “we have to save it for “brother” or “sister.” It’s a scam, we know, but wonderful to see how excited he is for a sibling. And we have an attic full of things waiting for when the time comes! When asked what he wants to do with his younger sibling, Luke loudly cheers, “Everything!”

Every night we say our prayers and pray that "brother" or "sister" finds us soon. It’s safe to say that any new child in our home will be surrounded by a lot of love and support.


Adoption Diary

Our (Very Loooong) Road To Adoption (pt. 3) (aka Questions You Might Be Asking Yourself)

(Cont’d from pt. 2)

Yes, you might be thinking, but even with all of that, you already have one child. Yes, we do.  And we are beyond lucky for that. We know that. We look at our son every day and think that. Maybe because it’s been a struggle for us, we are grateful for parenthood. We don’t take it for granted. And we also know, because we feel it to our core, that our family is not complete yet, which is why you’re reading about us now. We’re not doing this on a whim. We just feel that another child is out there for us. It’s probably like the feeling you’ll have when you see a family that fits your situation. You’ll just know.

But shouldn’t other people also get the chance to be parents, too, you might be asking yourself. Yes! We love being parents! Anyone who wants to be a parent should be able to have that. There are lots of children in the world who need parents to love and support them. We’re certainly not here to tell you that we’re better than other people you might be reading about. We like to think that there’s more good parents in the world than bad.  But we also know, because we’ve been doing it for a little bit, that finding the right situation for everyone involved requires a mix of fairy dust, luck, and a “feeling” that something feels familiar and comfortable about this family. And for you, that might be a family that already has another child. After all, they’re experienced. They know how to be parents. 
And even though we already have one child, what we’re most hopeful for now is that by reading about us you see or read about something that will give you that “feeling” that there’s something about us that just feels right. You might not know what it is yet, but that it might be worth reaching out through an email or call and chatting with us about your situation and hopes for your child. 

Again, all we know on our end is that we’ll get the child we’re meant to have. We’re just waiting for him or her (or you!) to find us is all. 

Our (Very Loooong) Road To Adoption (pt. 2)

(Cont’d from pt. 1)

But we weren’t done trying to build our family. Since adoption had always been an option for us, it wasn’t too difficult a transition for us to make in deciding to pursue the adoption route. This is probably where you expect us to say, “So, here we are!” But that’s not the case. It was 2016 when we began exploring a lot of different adoption options. What ended up feeling right for us at the time was pursuing an international adoption. Dana’s family is from Poland, and she grew up having a strong connection to Poland growing up. So, we found an agency we liked and began pursuing an adoption from Poland. We began the home study process and all of the paperwork required for Poland. This took about two years. But with the world the way it is now, Poland felt it was more important to keep their children in Poland than to adopt them to loving American families. The idea that an avenue we had been pursuing for so long was closing was devastating for us in some ways. But in another way, it was also comforting to say to ourselves, “well, the child we’re meant to have just isn’t in Poland.”

So, now we get to the point where we say, “So, here we are!” We’re not going to lie to you. It’s been difficult for us in some ways to open ourselves up like this—like we feel we should and need to—in a domestic adoption. We’re naturally fairly private people, and as great of a family as we think we have, we’re not overly comfortable putting ourselves out there in such an open and vulnerable way. It’s probably why we didn’t pursue domestic adoption at first. That said, birth parents deserve to know us to make sure it’s the right decision for them. And it’s actually been a great lesson for us., too. It’s made us really think about our family and what a two child family would look like, how we’d want to raise two children together, where we’d live, how the four of us would bond as a family, how we’d support the siblings bonding. Most important, all of this has made us very conscious of being open to all possibilities and keeping our guard down. Everyone is vulnerable in adoption. Birth parents, adoptive parents, and of course, the children involved. So, in our minds, maybe we needed to go through all of that struggle to come full circle to where we are now open and accepting.

Thank You for Visiting Our Adoption Profile

We want to thank you for considering us as adoptive parents for your child.

We truly appreciate your kindness and strength and look forward to hearing from you.

Sincerely,

Tom and Dana

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