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Tom and Dana

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Tom and Dana
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Every night when we sit down to dinner, we raise our glasses and say, “CHEERS TO FAMILY!” and we appreciate you reading about ours. We hope the information here will provide you with a snapshot of us, the kinds of people we are, the fun we have together, and most important, the life that we would provide your child.

We appreciate the effort you are taking in finding the right fit for you and your child and how brave you are for putting your child first. Adoption has always been a part of our plans for growing our family, and we’re honored you’re taking some time with our profile.

We want to give you peace of mind in knowing that we will provide a warm, safe, and nurturing home for your child. We pledge to you that we will love your child unconditionally, and support them in all they do. We will provide a home that celebrates who they are and honors your courageous act. They will be part of a family where laughter is abundant, hugs are always available, and love is endless.

If there’s anything in this profile that resonates with you even a little, we’d love to chat with you to tell you more about us and learn about you. We wish you luck and offer prayers as you go through this process, knowing whatever you decide will be the very best outcome for you and your child.

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Who We Are

Our story began in 2004 when we met at a friend’s BBQ in Washington, D.C. Tom was an energetic, outdoors-y guy who had just moved from California. Dana was working full time and finishing graduate school at Johns Hopkins. She was exhausted!

“Let’s do this, let’s do that,” Tom would say. A group of friends, already exhausted east coasters, dubbed this funny, energetic guy, New Guy.
But Dana still remembers how Tom’s laughter and energy were invigorating back then.

Summer was turning to autumn, and suddenly we were taking drives to corn mazes, wine festivals, and looking out at the Chesapeake Bay in Annapolis, MD. Soon enough, we realized that we loved the same things—being outdoors, exploring new places and foods, and traveling, which we did over a few years of dating. Somewhere in there we also got a puppy, too—our good boy, Milo, who just turned twelve years old! Finally, five years after meeting, we were married in Annapolis, MD, a block away from where we had our first date and got engaged.

Before getting married, we talked a lot about having kids and knew even then that we would likely pursue adoption at some point. Growing up, this was something Dana always wanted to do, and Tom loved the idea, too.

We have always believed that we’ll have the children we’re meant to have whether that’s naturally or through adoption. In 2013, we were lucky enough to have our son, Luke. As fortunate as we are to have one child already, we know that our family is not yet complete. As our son gets older, and we get older, too (!), we know this is the time to find the other child that was meant for our family. So, here we are!

We are proud of the family we’ve created so far, which is centered on love, togetherness, community, and faith. We can’t wait to bring a new little one into our family to teach them about these values. Our son, Luke, is a funny, independent kid, who has already begun making his own plans for a brother or sister, whom he loving calls, “Dory Pumpkin.” We can never get rid of anything either because “we have to save it for “brother” or “sister.” It’s a scam, we know, but wonderful to see how excited he is for a sibling. And we have an attic full of things waiting for when the time comes! When asked what he wants to do with his younger sibling, Luke loudly cheers, “Everything!”

Every night we say our prayers and pray that "brother" or "sister" finds us soon. It’s safe to say that any new child in our home will be surrounded by a lot of love and support.


Adoption Diary

Thanksgiving 2018

This is one of our most favorite times of year. Things seem to slow down as Thanksgiving approaches, and everyone gets ready to go spend time with family. You can really feel the relaxation settle in as Thanksgiving Day approaches.

This year we hosted Tom’s parents as we all celebrated Thanksgiving together. We spent the morning watching the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade, with Luke being very excited to name off all the balloon characters and to let us all know when Santa Clause had arrived. Dana spent the day cooking up an amazing meal for us all to enjoy. Before our feast, we all took a walk with the dogs, which is when you can really feel how relaxed everything is with no cars zooming down the roads; just calm streets and the sound of leaves shuffling under feet.

The day after Thanksgiving we all went to the Christmas Village in Baltimore. Luke enjoyed hot chocolate and looking at chocolate shaped tools. The rest of us enjoyed some hot cider and seeing the various crafts people had made. Luke was particularly impressed watching the Nutcracker performance and listening to some of the other live music.

As we start to get into the Holiday season, we are always reminded of how we love all of these moments we get to spend together as a family. We particularly love watching all of the magic that Luke is able to see in the Holidays, and can’t wait to share all of these experiences with Luke’s sister or brother in the future. 

What We (Already) Know About Being Parents

We understand why birth parents may want to choose a couple to raise their child who is the “first,” the center of everything, a child who bonds them as a tight knit family, a child who finally makes the couple into the parents they always wanted to be. And since we already have one biological son, we get why birth parents might not consider us as strong candidates to raise their child. 

But parenting is hard! And the super real truth is that being a new parent is even harder!  You’re sleep deprived, it can take a toll on your marriage, you have to renegotiate everything about your life, and so much more. The old adage that you can’t prepare for parenthood is completely true. Kids are adorably unpredictable, hilarious, creative, and crafty little beings!

Since we’re already parents though, we understand all of that now and have learned to navigate through these things. What that means is that, if you choose us, your child would truly be the “center” of everything and would complete our family. Your little one would benefit from the lessons we’ve already learned. Make no mistake, we’re no experts certainly, but having done it for a few years now, here’s what we already know about ourselves as parents:

We Are the Type of Parents Who…

(In no particular order)

—Teach our kids to judge somebody on their actions—not what they look like, who they love, or where they’re from, and that no one group of people is “scary” or “lesser” than anybody else
—Know that the hard phases like newborn sleep, toddler night terrors, and temper tantrums will pass.
—Are intentional about the kind of life we live and how we want to raise any children we have
—Sit down to eat dinner every night together and talk about our day
—Make sure our children are outside playing and not stuck in front of a screen all weekend
    —Give a lot of hugs and say, “I love you” a lot
—Don’t buy the biggest house we can, so that we don’t have to live to work
—Decided to have one parent work part-time, so that someone is always around for the kids
—Take a lot of pictures of our life together, trying to capture all the great moments. Like, a lot
    —Are silly and like to have fun
—Are mindful of children seeing devices in our hands too much and actively curb that
—Will sleep on the chair in our children’s rooms when they have a bad dream
—Are glad to shell out $20 for a cool store-bought Halloween costume since we’re not the super sewing-kinds of parents. (Sigh. We wish we were…)
    —Teach our kids about the importance of education
—Make sure our kids go to schools where they go outside a lot
—Cuddle with our dogs on the couch
—Keep in touch with our family on a regular basis
—Are involved parents in school who volunteer to organize bake sales and publicity
—Say prayers at night
—Go to open mic nights at the local café because the kids’ love music
—Visit the library once a week
—Like to introduce any kids of ours to different kinds of foods and cultures.


These are just a few things that came to us about how we parent. Check back soon to learn more. Or better yet! Give us a call!

Thanks for reading!

Thank You for Visiting Our Adoption Profile

We want to thank you for considering us as adoptive parents for your child.

We truly appreciate your kindness and strength and look forward to hearing from you.

Sincerely,

Tom and Dana

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