Was it fate? We are not sure, but it may have been.
We met many years ago at a mutual friend's gathering. We enjoyed speaking to one another and getting to know each other. However, we were at different places in our lives. We texted a few times and then we did not speak. Over the course of four years our paths crossed twice during friend's gatherings, but we still never connected on a higher level.
Then it happened. Scott had two contacts in his phone: Chris, a friend with whom he spoke frequently, and Christopher. When Scott updated his phone software, the two contacts merged into one in the phone, and this caused Scott to think of Christopher every time he communicated with Chris. After about one month, Scott went to the gym, something he did not do often. He thought he saw Christopher while there, but instead of approaching him, he texted him when he got to the car. Indeed, it was Christopher! We texted back and forth a few times and agreed we should get together soon. Christopher called Scott a few weeks later and there has not been one day that has gone by that we have not spoken to one another. After approximately three months after our first date, Christopher moved in with Scott. Five years later, on June 13, 2015, we were married. It was the most perfect of weddings. We were surrounded by those we love and who love us back. Everything was a dream come true, from the food, to the music, to the weather. Someone was definitely watching over us!
We love to work on our home, making it better and better over the years. We love to travel and experience the outdoors. Vermont is one of our favorite places to be, since it affords us the opportunity to escape the hustle and bustle of Long Island while exploring the outdoors. Growing up, Scott's grandfather would take him and his sister on trips through the woods near his home, and Scott remembers these wonderful experiences that allowed the family to bond. We want to give this same experience to our child. Getting away, being in the outdoors, with no distractions from modern technology; that's how to really build a relationship. Scott's parents would bring him and his sister camping almost every weekend over the summers, and this provided further family bonding.
Our life is filled with wonderful people. We both are part of the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society's Team in Training Program. Through this, we have met amazing people. Our friends are like family, and they are so excited about us adopting. This group of people will act as a support group for us as we raise our child.
Ultimately, we have lots of love to give, and are surrounded by lots of love. Our child will feel the same, from so many. That is what excites us the most. We want our child to have many experiences, from hiking and camping, to visiting museums, seeing Broadway shows, to doing anything that they want to do. We want our child to try new things, explore the world, and really develop a sense of who they are.
We absolutely love the house from which we recently moved. Working together to make our house a home is one of our favorite things to do. We love to be in the outdoors and we love to garden. We plant a vegetable garden each year and we have planted a peach tree, plum tree, and apple tree on the property. We planted a butterfly garden next to our garage to help the butterflies survive this changing environment. Throughout the years we have planted many things to make our gardens beautiful. We love to entertain our friends outside with good music and food.
We have moved into the house in which Scott's grandmother and grandfather had lived for many years, and where his father grew up. This is more east on Long Island than where we used to live. The reason we moved is to be close to Scott's mother and father so our child can have the same close relationship with them as Scott had with his grandparents. It is always good to have family close. Remember the old saying...it takes a village to raise a child!
I am very excited about becoming a loving father to a deserving child. There is no more difficult job and no more important job in this world than being a parent.
I am an Assistant Principal at a high school, so I have much experience dealing with children. Through this experience, I have learned about the many resources that are available for children of all ability levels and personalities. The most important thing to do for a child is to listen to them, to give them a voice. Ultimately, time is the most precious gift you can provide to anyone, especially a child.
I grew up on Long Island, in a house built by my father. We were 4.2 miles away from my paternal grandparents, and that led to me having a very strong bond with both of them. I consider myself to be very blessed, because the adults in my life were so good to me.
I went to Binghamton University for my Bachelors and after graduating lived and worked in Australia for 11 months. I was able to gain employment on a sailboat that took 12 guests out for three days and two nights through the beautiful Whitsunday Islands. These were backpackers from around the world, and there is no better way to get to know people and their cultures than to spend time with them. When I returned to the U.S. I began my Masters in education. I taught Biology for six years, and then became an administrator in the same district I am now. While employed at my current district I was able to gain my doctorate in Educational Leadership from St. John's University. I love my job, and I love the students with whom I am lucky to be with every day.
As a father, I will be patient and understanding. I will provide opportunities for our child to try new things and explore the world. We are so blessed to have so many friends that are more like family, and they will enrich the child's life so much as well.
All my life I have dreamed of starting a family. Never sure of what it would look like, I just knew that I wanted to be able to provide my child/children with love, as I had been. I cannot wait to be able to be a loving and supportive father to a child some day.
I am a counselor for adults with developmental disabilities. My day entails assisting my clients with decision making, ensuring that all their needs are met and showing them compassion at their times of angst. I look forward to sharing this compassion with my child.
I did not always work with adults. I started my journey in my field working as a Teaching Assistant for children with Autism. I loved this job! I loved working with children on a daily basis and helping them achieve things they and their parents did not know to be possible. I only left when I moved to live with Scott and be closer to home. I look forward to teaching my child that anything they want to achieve is possible, as my family has instilled in me.
Speaking of family, I unlike Scott, was born into a very large one. I am one of 6 siblings. We are all very unique but all love each other endlessly. On top of my siblings, I am surrounded by a number of wonderfully nurturing aunts and uncles. I am very close to my family and see them often. With most of us living on Long Island, I am happy to say our child will grow up in the same warm, large and loving family I did.
Other than my career and family, I am very active in multiple different organizations. I volunteer time at the local Farm Sanctuary, taking care of abused and neglected farm animals. As mentioned in our story, Scott and I are both part of the Leukemia Lymphoma Society and partake in their Team In Training hike program. I love to be outdoors any chance I get, whether it be hiking, biking, bird-watching, gardening or simply reading a book outside. I look forward to sharing all that I am interested in with our child and helping them foster their own interests.
As a father, I will love our child unconditionally, as my mother would say to the Moon and Back times ten. I would teach them how to be kind, compassionate to others and how to give back. I look forward to helping our child discover new things and engage in their curiosities. Lastly, I look forward to sharing our child with our ever growing group of close friends and loving family.