We were brought together in the spring of 2001, our first date was at Hops Restaurant while Kim was visiting the area with her friends for a couple weeks, we enjoyed an entertaining dinner and the rest is history. One month later Kim was back in NC signing for an apartment and applying for jobs, and moved into the apartment complex with her friend Debbie. In less the 2 years it was time to make the next step as a couple and we purchased our first home together in November of 2002. During that time Kim followed Brent to some races with her friends and the got a cat Dusty (which is now 15! )
In the spring of 2007 we moved to a new home with more space for the future, and we always have friends and family stopping down and wanted space for entertaining too. Fast forward to Christmas of 2010 after nine and a half years we became engaged, and our families were totally thrilled as they had all been waiting for us to make it official!
We have always had a good relationship but between our engagement and our wedding our relationship blossomed more than ever, I guess the stress was off and we could just have fun. Along with our parents we planned a beautiful wedding and reception that took place Thanksgiving weekend 2011. Family and Friends gathered in our area for the whole week and we had a beautiful family Thanksgiving. That Saturday we enjoyed a gorgeous wedding day with over 100 of our closest family and friends who were able to make the trip.
A few months before the wedding our journey to grow our family began as we knew we wanted children. Without hesitation we began preparing to be parents. We knew at some point we would be adopting, we just thought it would be our 2nd child because Kim has Fibromyalgia. Kim sees a chiropractor and pain management doctor for muscle pain on a monthly basis, which you wouldn’t know it because she is very active. Fibromyalgia is not a disease, and doesn’t change your life expectancy, it’s just overactive muscles. When you are pregnant you can’t treat it and we were told some women’s pain can be elevated and the further along in pregnancy you were the worse it could be. Knowing this we still tried to persevere through all of it and try for a pregnancy. After a year and a half of failed fertility treatments and a miscarriage, we went through the adoption process . We put our profile online and the first contact and a couple months later we were parents to a son. We received long beautiful letter from our birth mother. We met a couple weeks later and from the first time we saw our son we knew we wanted to be his parents. He has changed our lives and made us love each other even more deeply and defiantly gives a whole new respect for each other as husband and wife. Our son has found out how much love our family , friends and neighbors have for him. We have been blessed with such great people in our lives that have taken him in like he was there own. Our parents love being grandparents. Kim’s parents so much that they moved to NC to be a part of their grandchildren’s lives and help raise them .Brents parents we see a at least 4-6 times a year too! Our son is so excited to be a big brother, he talks about it all the time. He is so patient and wonderful with small children always making them laugh. We are excited to grow and complete our family. We want to bring another little one in and love and spoil.
We feel we were put on this world together to be parents, and that god is choosing another special little or not so little angel to be in our lives.
If you have ANY questions, please ask! We know this is a hard decision and if you want to talk, we are here.
*We are hoping for a child 9 months up to 6 years old, in America.
Thank you for taking time to read our journey to becoming parents again.
We Built our forever home almost 3 years ago. After all these years we compiled a list of what we wanted, liked and bought land to build it . Honestly we didn’t want to move anymore either. We are both from up North and it is hard to find some of the same stuff like a basement and land here. This is a multigenerational home. A year ago Kim's parents moved down to NC from Toledo and onto the property with us and help raise and spoil their grandchildren. They are building a in-law suite attached to our home. Our home is 2 stories, 5 bedroom, 4 bath, with a walk up attic It's about 5000 sq ft We have plenty of room in and out. We have a 15x25 playroom full of kid stuff!
We love decorating for the holidays! Valentines to Christmas we are always festive!
We have a 30 ft deck and a patio below that. Lots of places to enjoy the outdoors. We have 8.5 acres with a 60x80 shop in our back yard. We also have 8ft x8ft sandbox in our backyard for playtime and a 22 ft round pool. We built a dirt racetrack also for running go carts and dirt bikes. When it snows we have a great sledding hill, that we enjoy just as much as kids. We have multiple swings in trees to play on and we have A fire pit for roasting hotdogs and marshmallows. We enjoy having holiday parties for our sons Cub Scout pack. We also have a lot of bird feeders and bird houses in our woods , we all love to watch the wildlife. We are very blessed to have a country oasis just outside of town. We both grew up in the country and wanted our children to have room to roam, ride 4 wheelers, and just be a kid. For us it’s important to let them play and be kids because they push them hard in elementary school and need a place to play , run around and adventure after school ! We have a indoor cat and puppy and 2 outdoor cats that sleep in the shop.
Brent comes off a bit shy at first, but then you notice he has a magnetic personality, which is what first attracted me to him. He has the zodiac sign Leo and Leos are strong, ambitious and work very hard to achieve goals, and that was probably the second thing I loved most about him. Brent is very good at his job he is a NASCAR Mechanic , and has been 20 years. Even when it is tough people notice his dedication and he has always persevered.
Brent also has a heart of gold. He always thinks of others, and I remember his mom showing me a card he wrote to his friends’ older sister on the birth of her first child to congratulate her. That melted my heart. His thoughtfulness and generosity is something I believe has rubbed off more on me over the years, we did convince Brent he did not have to stop at EVERY red kettle during Christmas time, he always thinks about helping others.
What is most recognizable as well is his positive attitude, which was a blessing to us over the 2 years of our fertility treatments. He always cheered me up and gave me a brighter side to look at. Even though we talked about adoption early on, Brent is the one who said, let’s go ahead with the adoption process. There is something in Brent’s ability to talk to people about his job or just in general to make people feel at home. He did this with my grandmother before she passed away. He knew just what to say to her, when I didn’t have those words to say myself. Not sure if it was because he had a wonderful relationship with his own grandfather but none the less, it always impresses me.
Another noble quality is retaining information; it’s a great thing as a wife, because I never have to ask for something twice, and after one time of learning anything, he is a pro. All of these are qualities that make Brent a wonderful, caring and giving father. I am proud to have him by my side, sharing in this journey to become parents again, and he is my one true love! Brent is a great father, and our son idolizes him! As he gets older it’s like pro wrestling with these guys . Our son howls with laughter “do it again” . I love to see them play together and be silly. Although Brents not always home 7 days a week like me , he definitely makes good when he is home. Our family group hugs are by far the best. I already feel like I hit the jackpot with both of these wonderful guys!
Strong, Caring, Loving, Nurturing, Confident, and Hard Working…Those are just a few of things that that come to my mind when I think of Kim, other than the fact that she is my soul mate for life! Very early in our relationship I knew Kim would be the one that would complete my search for my soul mate; she is a great compliment to me and with the addition of our son she has showed that same love and compassion that I always knew she would as a mother. Kim’s hard work and dedication make our lives ones that we cherish every day. This is something that has been instilled in her by her loving parents who raised her with a lot of everlasting qualities that make our days enjoyable. As her husband, I understand the dedication of love and caring she brings to the table. Any child would be grateful to have Kim as their mother. Respected by many of our family members and peers for her work ethic, it’s almost funny too be told by your wife “I will cut the grass, you rest”. It is just those kinds of things that set Kim apart from the rest. Kim has worked renting construction equipment for many years and works part time now so she can be home with our son to spend as much time with him as possible, She gets him on the bus, and works till she has to get him off the bus.
Of course I don’t have enough room here to write of all the great things but just thought that was something that sets the bar of what kind of person she is! . I looked forward to the days when I could share her love and compassion with a child, and with the adoption of our first child, it was everything I thought it would be. Knowing they will be brought up with a quality upbringing, this is all the more reason to get excited for an opportunity to be parents once again. It will be another awesome journey and I wouldn’t want anyone else by my side but Kim, I know in my heart any child would be lucky to call her MOM