Adoption Blog - Adoptimist
February 13, 2017

Adoption Is About Love

Flowers, candy, cards, and other heartfelt expressions are just a few of the many ways couples across the U.S. are celebrating Valentine’s Day this month. Love is no doubt one of the most powerful emotions we experience. That’s why it’s no surprise that love is strongly and abundantly present in adoption. The reason: the bond between a parent and a child, whether biological or not, is a connection like no other. Let’s take a look at all the ways that love comes into play throughout the adoption process. Unselfish When an expectant mother learns... Read more…

January 31, 2017

A Prayer For Adoptive Parents

Being a parent is an amazing, challenging, awesome, and exhausting blessing. No matter how moms become moms and dads become dads – parenting is a full-time job with hours that never end. When someone becomes a parent through adoption – all the blessings and challenges of being a parent exist, but there are added dimensions that bring added stress. Knowing the huge responsibility it is to be a parent, I think it is safe to say that... Read more…

January 10, 2017

What Your Adoption Journey Needs Most This Year

Being on the journey to adopt requires so much of us physically, mentally, and emotionally. The adoption home study alone can feel like it requires more documentation than taking out a mortgage or buying a brand-new car. As I check my email today, I once again see our social worker has contacted me to ask for our updated financial statements, fingerprint clearances, and the check we owe them to renew our home study — for the third year in a row.... Read more…

November 10, 2016

A Prayer For Birth Parents

Birthmothers are not all the same. The motivation to become a birthmother comes from many different sources. Some choose an adoption plan because they are young and have no means to parent, some have no support from the birthfather, others make the decision to choose adoption with the birthfather. Some are battling addiction; others feel a deep call inside that this baby was meant to be with an adoptive family. No matter what the reason, all... Read more…

November 7, 2016

Celebrating National Adoption Month

As most of you know, November is National Adoption Month. It’s the time each year when adoption organizations across the country celebrate with special events, programs, and activities to help raise awareness of adoption. For me, it has another special meaning: November is the month we were matched with our daughter’s birth mom. After two long years of waiting, we finally learned we were going to be parents! My life began to change on that fateful day —... Read more…

November 2, 2016

November Is National Adoption Month

November is National Adoption Month! And everyone touched by adoption is welcome to join Adoptimist in the celebration. Here’s how: 1) Follow us on Instagram. 2) Share your adoption story on your Instagram page. Tell us how adoption has changed (or will change) your life. So we can find you, be sure to add the hashtag #WeAreAdoptimists All month long we’ll post your inspiring stories to our Instagram page in celebration of National Adoption Month! And don’t forget... Read more…

October 19, 2016

Faith And The Adoption Journey

Faith is a gift. I remember sitting in religion class as a Catholic school student and being taught that statement. I also remember being confused by it. Wasn’t faith a choice? If it is a gift — does that mean not everyone gets it? Shouldn’t God give it to everyone?  Lots of questions ran through my brain as I scratched my head. It didn’t make sense. I didn’t get it. I am sure I thought the teacher was wrong and had no idea what she was talking about. Fast-forward many years later to the present moment: Faith is a gift. I totally get it.... Read more…

June 25, 2016

Adoption Is Driven by Love

No one can deny that adoption is marked by loss, heartbreak, and grief. However, there’s another side that is pretty incredible, and that is the powerful driving force behind it: love. Love is present throughout the adoption triad, whether you are a birth parent, an adoptive parent, or an adoptee. To explain what I mean, let’s take a look at all three... Read more…

January 24, 2016

Being An Adoptimist: Staying Optimistic While You Try To Adopt

When I was introduced to Adoptimist three years ago or so, my first reaction was to think, “What a great name!”  “Adoptimist” is unique, catchy and conveys an upbeat, positive message. More important, it captures the essence of the adoption experience: one has to have and maintain optimism.  Often this is easier said than done.  As an adoption counselor and consultant, I have observed the varied roles that optimism plays in adoption.  Evidence of optimism—or of its... Read more…

December 6, 2015

Adoption Is The Best Gift Of All

Remember how you felt at Christmastime as a child? Magic, excitement and wonder surrounded you. You eagerly waited in anticipation for the holiday festivities – joining together with family, sharing a meal, baking cookies, attending church. And, of course, you couldn’t wait for that special gift from Santa! What you may not have realized at the time was that there are far better and more important gifts in life. These are not the gifts that can be bought or exchanged; they are the gifts of the heart. I’ll never forget the last Christmas we spent before... Read more…