Adoption Blog - Adoptimist
April 30, 2014

Understanding The Need For Positive Adoption Language

Whether “Open” or not, adoption joins adoptees, adoptive parents and birth parents in a life-long relationship. As surely as our children are grafted to our family tree, they are also the fruit of their biological family tree.  Our kids carry the DNA of their ancestry. When we treat their birth families and heritage with respect, we teach children to respect and value an integral part of themselves. Commit to being a family with a high “AQ” (Adoption-attunement Quotient). Part of having a Read more…

June 13, 2013

International Traffic On Adoptimist

What should I do if I get an inquiry from overseas?  Are there legitimate expectant mothers looking to place with US adoptive parents?  I know Adoptimist has blocked international traffic.   Adopting from overseas involves immigration determinations and almost always requires the establishment of orphan status in the prospective adoptee.  Children are prohibited from being brought to the US for the express purpose of adoption.  Because of these restrictions and limitations, along with the high incidence of fraudulent intent associated with international... Read more…

December 31, 2012

Internet Adoption Scams and the Russian Adoption Ban

I was recently contacted on the Adoptimist website. How do I identify a legitimate connection versus one that is from a scammer? The person that contacted me did bring up finances right away, which I hear is a big red flag. As I mentioned in a previous column, there is no substitute for meeting in-person, reviewing prenatal records and evaluating responsiveness when it comes to sizing-up an expectant mother. Keep in mind that many expectant mothers are under pressure financially [and emotionally]. So requests for financial assistance have to be expected as... Read more…

October 4, 2012

Handling Multiple Connections

We are currently connected with two expectant mothers who are considering adoption. We definitely prefer one over the other. But should we keep both connections going for as long as we can? What is the proper etiquette for handling multiple connections and how do we keep from offending anyone? Often, the decision to favor one expectant mother over another is a judgment call made with the benefit of limited information.  It is important to be honest with yourself and with the expectant mother.  Is someone truly your back-up choice - there only if the... Read more…