Adoptimist Adoption Blog
October 8, 2015

Expectant and Birthmother Rights

Your Adoption Rights

As a birthmother or expectant mother considering adoption, you have rights. And it is important to know what your adoption rights are and to be informed and aware of them.

• First and foremost, you are your baby’s mother until you sign papers terminating your parental rights.

• You have the right to make all decisions regarding your healthcare and your hospital experience. These are your decisions and no one else’s.

• You have the right to control your hospital experience, decide who can or cannot be in the delivery room with you, etc.

• You have the right to name your baby. Yes, the adoptive parents can change the name later. But you have the right to choose a name and that name will appear on the original birth certificate.

• You have the right to have a copy of the birth certificate for safe keeping.

• You have the right to keep your baby in the hospital room with you, should you choose to do so.

• You have the right to make the placement decision in your own time. Deciding whether or not to place your child for adoption or parent your child is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make. Do not let anyone or even an impending due date rush you into a hasty decision. Take as much time as you need.

• You have the right to change your mind about placing your baby for adoption at any point BEFORE signing relinquishment papers. Once you sign relinquishment papers, it is more difficult and sometimes impossible to change your mind, depending on which state you relinquish. But if at any point you change your mind prior to signing those papers, you have the right do so and to parent your baby.

• You have the right to receive copies of all legal documents that you must sign pertaining to the adoption before you sign them so you or an attorney can look them over. You have a right to receive copies of these documents after they are signed.

Birthmother Rights After Adoption

What are a birth parents rights after adoption? A birth mother’s rights after adoption are limited by what type of adoption she chooses (open, closed, etc.) and by the laws of the state in which she lives.You may also want to consider creating an adoption agreement with the parents who adopt your baby. Learn more info about placing your baby for adoption or open adoption.

About The Author

Coley Strickland

Nicole “Coley” Strickland has become a strong voice for expectant mothers and birthmothers. At the age of 25, she became a birthmother, lovingly placing her three-day-old baby boy into an open adoption and the arms of his adoptive parents. She and fellow birthmother Leilani Wood went on to found BirthMom Buds, a website and nonprofit organization that provides support to birthmothers.

Coley has further given a voice to the bittersweet turmoil of birthmothers, becoming an active member of the adoption community, writing, speaking and sharing her story with others. In addition to her numerous blogs, she has also been featured on a number of radio programs, magazine and newspaper articles, as well as in the books: How to Create a Successful Adoption Portfolio by Madeleine Melcher and A Personal Touch on Adoption by Peter Berlin. In addition to her many other roles, Coley has been blessed to parent her special needs son Noah, who along with the son she placed, is the love of her life.

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